Remembering Loved Ones - Hospice in the Weald

Remembering Loved Ones - Hospice in the Weald
Winter 2019

                          Remembering Loved Ones

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        Light Up a Life          Adrienne’s story   New Trek Challenge!
Remembering Loved Ones - Hospice in the Weald
Introduction                                                                                                                                                                                  A word from our CEO

    Contents                                                                                                          Remembering those
    A word from our CEO
    Remembering Loved Ones 4
                                                                                                                      important to us
    Hospice Voices:
    Ellie’s Story                      6
                                                                                                                      Rob Woolley, Chief Executive
    Light up a Life                    7                                                                              Hospice in the Weald is             memories until their needs
                                                                                                                      sometimes an integral part of       are met – pain is controlled
    Christmas Cards                    8                                                                              many people’s memories when         and all worries are addressed
    Hospice Voices:                                                                                                   they remember their loved           in an holistic way. Our staff
    Adrienne‘s Story                   9                                                                              ones. The Hospice Palliative        and volunteers show their
                                                                                                                      Care our patients, families and     dedication every day by
    Christmas appeal                  10                                                                              carers receive plays a vital part   making all of this possible.
    Hospice Voices:                                                                                                   in creating memories that their     More than half of the patients
    Warren & Jenny‘s Story            12                                                                              families look back on fondly,       Hospice in the Weald cares for
                                                                        Thank you to all of our Starlight Strollers   like Adrienne remembering           don’t have cancer, but have
    Ho Ho Hospice Rumble              14                                                                              her father Colin on page 9.         another terminal illness of some
                                                                      who raised a fantastic amount! Mickey and
    Christmas Market                                                  Pauline walked in memory of their father &      Our staff and volunteers work       kind. All receive outstanding
    & Stitch a Stocking               15                             husband, Norman. Thank you too to Hendy          hard to make each patient           Hospice Palliative Care.
                                                                                                                      and family’s experience and
    Look At All You’ve Done 16                                       who sponsored the first ever Starlight Stroll.
                                                                                                                      memories happen as they wish,
                                                                                                                                                          Some of our fundraising
                                                                                                                                                          activities involve supporters
    China Trek                        17                                                                              like in Sarah’s story on page 10.
                                                                                                                                                          remembering their loved
    Save the date                     18
                                             Annual General Meeting (AGM)                                             It should be remembered
                                                                                                                      that patients and families
                                                                                                                                                          ones too. Whether walking
                                                                                                                                                          or running commemoratively
    Events calendar                   19     You are invited to our AGM which will be held at Cottage Hospice,        cannot create those treasured       or hanging a leaf in the                        Rob Woolley, CEO
    Memory Orchard                    19     Five Ashes, on Thursday 5th December. The meeting will start at                                              Memory Orchard on page 19,
                                             6pm with refreshments available from 5.30pm. If you would like                                               supporters can remember their
    Front cover image: Carole and
                                             to attend, please contact Amy Dedman, Executive Assistant, on                                                loved ones in the way most         anything that we already offer
    Pauline in the Hospice Gardens
    Photo credit: David Bartholomew
                                             01892 820552 or                        Our staff and                     personal to them. For many,
                                                                                                                                                          the Light up a Life ceremony
                                                                                                                                                                                             but will be another option for
                                                                                                                                                                                             patients. It is very different
                                                                                                                      volunteers work                     on page 7 brings comfort
                                                                                                                                                          at what can be a particularly
                                                                                                                                                                                             from the In-Patient Ward at
                                                                                                                                                                                             Pembury and offers families
                                             Receive Hospice News by email                                              hard to make                      difficult time of year. Coming     the chance to care for their
                                             We also send Hospice News by email. If you would like to update                                              together in this way brings a      loved one, fully supported by
                                             your contact preferences to reflect this, please let us know by:           each patient                      true sense of community, and
                                                                                                                                                          I see a number of supporters
                                                                                                                                                                                             Hospice staff and volunteers.
                                                                                                                                                                                             You will see we are holding our
                                               • Adding your email address to the ‘sign up to receive                   and family’s                     at the ceremony year after year.
                                                                                                                                                          Many come to remember a
                                                                                                                                                                                             AGM at Cottage Hospice (at
                                                                                                                                                                                             Five Ashes, near Mayfield) and
                                                  our newsletter’ link on the homepage of our website
                                                                                       experience                       loved one even if we were not
                                                                                                                                                          involved in their care.
                                                                                                                                                                                             you are invited to come along.
                                                                                                                                                                                             Thank you for supporting
                                               • Contacting Tor Edwards – Head of Communications, on
                                                  01892 820502 or
                                                                                                                       and memories                       Our new Cottage Hospice            Hospice in the Weald. I hope
                                                                                                                                                          will open on 11th November.        you will continue to support
                                                                                                                          happen as                       As a new home-from-home            us. We will always be here to
                                             Sending Hospice News by email is more cost effective than                                                    environment that will help so      support you or your loved one,
Hospice in the Weald, Maidstone Road,
Pembury, Tunbridge Wells, Kent TN2 4TA
                                             posting hard copies, and therefore helps us to achieve one of our
                                             core values, to ‘make the best possible use of funds to ensure
                                                                                                                          they wish.                      many patients, families and        or anyone in the community
                                                                                                                                                          carers, it does not replace        that needs Hospice Care.                 value for money’. It also reduces the number of hard copies we
                                             print, therefore reducing our impact on the environment.
                                                                                                                        For further information regarding any of the above, please contact Rob Woolley – Chief Executive,
                                           We are committed to minimising our impact on the environment and             on 01892 820518 or
Registered Charity No. 280276              so both Hospice News and the plastic it is delivered in are recyclable.

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Remembering Loved Ones                                                                                                                                                          Remembering Loved Ones

Remembering Loved Ones                                                                                        Hospice Day
For many of us, losing a loved one is of one the most difficult times in life,                              Service provides
but how we remember them can bring great comfort.                                                            a wide variety
Often, when we think of the        Hospice in the Weald provides        might be better for them – it’s       of activities
impacts of a terminal illness,     a wide variety of activities to      being with others with whom
we think of patients, and the      create and treasure memories.        you share bereavement. For             to create
challenges they face. But the      Among the most popular are           many, that common ground is
impact on family members,          the memory projects, where           so valuable.”                         and treasure
friends and those important to     patients and family members
the patient are longer lasting.    can do creative or musical work,     “Time is precious, and we              memories.
Hospice in the Weald cares for     such as making scrapbooks,           work with families to ensure
patients, families and carers.     memory boxes or recordings for       support, including creative arts,
For the latter, a vital part of    their family. There is a treasured   is available when they need it.     last year, for family members,
this care is helping individuals   textile group in which relatives     That might be making a hand         patients, and bereaved relatives.
and families remember loved        make keepsakes from the              cast or a metal fingerprint
ones. Paul Madden, Head of         clothes of their loved ones – for    with a patient staying on the       “Grief is such a personal thing
Counselling & Support and          example soft toys for young          Ward. Making something              and each of us deals with it
Hospice Day Services talks         children or cushions from an         personal, together, gives           differently,” says Paul.
about how every individual         item of clothing.                    people something to treasure                                                  Supporters get ready to walk in memory at the Moonlight Walk
is different when it comes to                                           for a lifetime. This helps with     “Our counselling service helps
grieving, and how each family      “Counselling isn’t always the        grieving.”                          bereaved relatives realise it is
                                                                                                            normal to not sleep, to forget      people who are going through        service at Christmas. For
member or friend is supported      first thing someone turns to
                                                                                                            things or to cry. These are         the same. These gatherings          many, Christmas can be one
in remembering their loved         after the loss of a loved one,”      The Hospice Counselling &
                                                                                                            all perfectly natural reactions     are a chance to feel less alone.    of the most difficult times.
one, in a way most personal        says Paul, “Doing something          Support Service delivered over
                                                                                                            and emotions. Some people           Many of those who come along
to them.                           practical and with other people      2,000 counselling sessions
                                                                                                            swing into practical mode and       meet new friends, and create a      Many relatives participate
                                                                                                            focus on clearing the house. It     network of likeminded people,”      in Hospice fundraising
                                                                                                            can be a year or two, or more       explains Paul.                      events in memory of loved
                                                                                                            before grief hits them and they                                         ones, such as the Hospice
                                                                                                            contact us. Others deal with it     Paul explains: “It takes time to    Run, Moonlight Walk and
                                                                                                            by talking straight away.”          readjust to a new way of life       Starlight Stroll. Others
                                                                                                                                                after a bereavement and to go       make or buy Forget Me Not
                                                                                                            The family and friends of           through the grieving process        flowers or leave personalised
                                                                                                            patients are also invited to        but you need to have those          inscriptions on Memory
                                                                                                            informal social gatherings          conversations, special moments      Orchard Leaves, or take up
                                                                                                            held once a month at the            and times together as there         their own bakes, events and
                                                                                                            Hospice, where they can get         is no going back, and you           challenges from antique fairs
                                                                                                            together so they can meet           will have those memories to         to the London Marathon. For
                                                                                                            others who are going through        treasure and to remember your       some, sharing their stories,
                                                                                                            a similar experience.               loved one.”                         like Adrienne on page 9,
                                                                                                                                                                                    can be an important part
                                                                                                            “There is nothing more powerful     Relatives are also invited to the   of remembering their
                                                                                                            than being in a room full of        Light up a Life remembrance         loved one too.

                                                                                                                  “Grief is such a personal thing and each of us
                                                                                                                              deals with it differently”
                                                                                                                             Paul Madden – Head of Counselling & Support and Hospice Day Service
                                                                  April and Helen in Hospice Day Service

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Hospice Voices                                                                                                                                                                                  Light up a Life

                                                                                                            On the day we had warm               Simon’s dad, Tim, said,             He had always wanted to be a
                                                                                                            weather, so Simon was able to        “We didn’t expect Ellie to          dad and was over-the-moon
                                                                                                            sit in his bed in the gardens. His   understand this much. She’s         when she came along. It was
                                                                                                            sister Julie brought some food in,   been amazing. We have to            amazing watching them spend
                                                                                                            and we all spent time together.      thank the nurses; they’ve really    time together on the Ward.
After being diagnosed with a second brain tumour and hearing it was                                         Julie always did the food for        gone above and beyond for           One of the nurses helped
incurable at the age of just 40, Simon and his family knew he needed                                        Simon’s birthday and so having       her. I know that Ellie wouldn’t     Ellie make a hand cast of her
to spend as much time with his daughter Ellie as possible.                                                  that one bit of normality was        have coped how she has              holding Simon’s hand, and
                                                                                                            really nice. Ellie helped Simon      without the people here.”           she’s made a charm with both
                                                                                                            blow out the candles on his cake.    “Simon was a fantastic Dad. He      of their fingerprints on it. She’ll
                                                                                                            She’s just been so good.”            was absolutely devoted to Ellie.    treasure those for ever.”

                                                                                                              Simon died in September whilst staying on the In-Patient Ward. Tim, Gill and Ellie have shared their
                                                                                                              story to remember Simon as part of our Light up a Life campaign this year, which is about coming
                                                                                                              together to remember loved ones. To read more about their experiences, visit

                                                                                                            Remembering Loved Ones
                                                                                                            at Light up a Life
                                                                                                                                                                                     We know that the
                                                                                                                                                                                     absence of a loved one
                                                                                                                                                                                     can be deeply felt at
                                                                                                                                                                                     this time of year. Please
                                                                                                                                                                                     join us and remember
                                                                                                                                                                                     someone special at
                                                                                                                                                                                     our Light up a Life
                                                                                                                                                                                     ceremony. Be sure to
                                                                                                                                                                                     dress up warm as the
                                                                                                                                                                                     service is held outside.
    Ellie’s story                                                                                                                                                                    Whether it is your first
                                                                                                               Join us this December and                                             Christmas since the
                                                                                                                                                                                     loss of a loved one or
Two years later, Simon was          ‘Special Nurse Ellie’ has made      in applying an eye patch that he       celebrate your loved ones.                                            many have passed, the
admitted to the In-Patient Ward,    an amazing addition to our          needed over his eye.
in July this year, Ellie was just   workforce, brightening the smiles                                                                                                                service brings everyone
six years old. Her Nana, Gill,      of patients, family and friends     Ellie also helped organise a                                                                                 together to reflect and
explains: “We were worried          and staff as she made her way       birthday party for her Dad whilst   7th December at 5.00pm                                                   share memories of their
about bringing Ellie to the         round the Ward, delivering tea      he stayed on the In-Patient
Hospice, the first time she         and cake and offering cuddles       Ward. Gill, Simon’s mum and         at Hospice in the Weald in Pembury                                       loved ones.
visited the nurses gave her a       with Rosie, her toy hamster.        Ellie’s Nana, explains: “The
badge, with ‘Special Nurse Ellie’   Ellie, who wants to be a nurse at   nurses took her down to the
on it. She was really proud of      Hospice in the Weald when she       Hospice kitchens to choose a          For more information about Light up a Life please speak to Leeann Wilmer
that. They’ve just been fantastic   grows up, also helped Simon eat     birthday cake for him. She felt       on 01892 820507 or email
with her.”                          his meals and assisted the nurses   so grown up!

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    ChristmasThe Hospice at Christmas
               Cards                                                                                                                                                                              Hospice Voices

Christmas Cards                                                                                                                                                                      He was my best
Every pack of Christmas cards that you buy help to make life easier for patients
                                                                                                                                                                                      friend. I know
with a terminal illness, their families and loved ones this Christmas. It may                                                                                                           that might
seem like a small way to show your support, but it can make a big difference.
                                                                                                                                                                                      sound silly, he
                                                                                                                                                                                       was my dad,
                                                                                                                                                                                     but he was my
                                                                                                                                                                                     best friend too
                                                                                                                                                                                      and I’ll always
                                                                                                            Adrienne’s story                                                         remember him
                                                                                                                                                                                         that way.
                                                                                                           Adrienne shares her memories of her Dad, Colin.
                                                                                                           After his diagnosis of oesophageal cancer, he was                         My dad hated having a beard,
                                                                                                           cared for on the In-Patient Ward.                                         and so one of the last things I did
                                                                                                                                                                                     for my Dad was to give him one
                                                                                                                                                                                     last shave. I brought a dish and
                                                                                                           “From the start, the Hospice was    puppy, and we brought him in so       razor and flannel in. He was very
                                                                                                           where my Dad wanted to be.          Dad got to meet him. It was the       particular about who touched him,
                                                                                                           The plan was for him to come        most amazing thing. Dad actually      but I was able to do that for him.
                                                                                                           to Hospice Day Service, but he      cried the first time he met Jasper.
                                                                                                           became very unwell very quickly,    We felt that was a really happy       He was very creative, and I get
                                                                                                           so he was admitted to the In-       moment for him. If it hadn’t          most of my creativity from my
                                                                                                           Patient Ward.                       been possible to bring him in,        dad. We would often do things
                                                                                                                                               Dad would never have met him.         together. When he became too
                                                                                                           He was my best friend. I know       But also, someone would have          unwell, I put everything into one
This year we have 18 festive        with new designs. Our newest        out on your favourite designs!     that might sound silly, he was my   always had to stay at home            notebook. Any poems I’d written
designs including 4 stunning        addition, Westerham in Winter,      Sending one of our Christmas       dad, but he was my best friend      with Jasper.                          I put in one book, and we’d sit
scenes from within our local        showcases the fantastic statue      cards is the perfect way to show   too and I’ll always remember him                                          and go through it. Poems I’d
community. These local designs      of the great Winston Churchill      your friends and family that you   that way.                                                     Jasper      written when I was six years old,
are handpicked and exclusively      sitting proud on the Green.         support your local Hospice.                                                                                  up until recently. Writing about
designed for Hospice in the                                                                                I have so many memories of Dad.                                           how I’ve felt has helped me in so
Weald, so you won’t find them       Christmas card sales contribute     By writing your cards and          He was just so kind, and very                                             many ways.
anywhere else! The cards have       greatly to the £7 million we need   spreading your love with ink and   caring. He was very particular
been created by talented artists    to raise each and every year to     pen. You too can help families     – he had Asperger’s, but it was                                           On the day he passed away,
who have really captured the        provide our vital services and      share precious moments together,   only diagnosed later on in his                                            there was a giant bumble bee by
essence of winter in some of        support local patients, families    that they can treasure forever.    life. So, everything he did had                                           the window. It just wouldn’t fly
our most beloved places in the      and carers. Choose yours and                                           a certain way about it. He could                                          away. So, whenever I see a bee
Weald. The Pantiles, Tonbridge      order today, online or using our                                       tell you if you wanted something                                          now, I think of him.”
Castle and Knole Park all return    postal form, to avoid missing                                          from the tool shed, it would be
                                                                                                           on the left-hand corner in the
                                                                                                           third box. Things like that.                                                To see more of
    Purchase your Christmas cards at or contact Kieran Draper, Customer                                                                                       Adrienne’s story, visit
    Development Manager, on 01892 820556 or                         When he came to the Hospice                                       
                                                                                                           from hospital, we had Jasper, the

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Christmas Appeal 2019                                                                                                                                                                         Christmas Appeal 2019             Step 2: Your Details

Christmas Appeal: Sarah’s story                                                                                      ‘The Hospice has                                                                                                 Title

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                First Name

Sarah shares her experiences after being referred to the In-Patient Ward                                              provided a light
in August this year.                                                                                                    for me at one
                                                                                                                        of the darkest
                                                                                                                       times, and my                                                                                                                                  Postcode

                                                                                                                       donations will                                                                                                 Telephone

                                                                                                                     help them do that                                                                                                Email

                                                                                                                       for others too.’                                                      Sarah and her family at their family
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Date of birth
                                                                                                                                                                                            dinner, arranged by the Ward team
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        If you have supplied your email address please tick here to
                                                                                                                     I’ve been given a head start. So I need to make         I’ve always loved doing crafts and over the last few        confirm that you are happy for us to use this to communicate
                                                                                                                     every day count. I’ve done that so far. The Hospice     years my best friend Ivy and I have been crafting           with you.
                                                                                                                     organised a spa day for my daughter and I, in the       non-stop. Although we thought we would have                If you have supplied your mobile number please tick here to
                                                                                                                     summer house, and a family dinner. The volunteers       many more years together creating, we are now               confirm that you are happy for us to use this to communicate
                                                                                                                     and staff got involved and made these things            coming up with lots of exciting things to donate to         with you.
                                                                                                                     happen for me and my family. And friends of my          the Hospice Christmas Market, and more.
                                                                                                                     son really wanted to do something for me and                                                                    Thank you for supplying us with your contact details. By choosing to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     make a donation, we believe you have a Legitimate Interest in hearing
                                                                                                                     came up with a wonderful idea. Jack and David are       We have fundraised for the Hospice in a few
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     more about the work of Hospice in the Weald, and we will use your data
                                                                                                                     currently touring the UK in Dad’s Army Radio Show       different ways now. I want to say thank you, and        to keep you up to date. At any time you can manage your preferences
                                                                                                                     and they came to do a performance for me, my            helping others has always been important to me.         by visiting our website: ‘Our Supporter Promise’; by phoning or writing
                                                                                  Sarah and her husband Paul         family and friends, and anyone else at the Hospice.     When I was referred to the Hospice, I asked my          to us using the contact details overleaf.
                                                                                                                     It was brilliant.                                       consultant whether anyone else might need the
“I was first referred to the Hospice by the palliative   From the moment we arrived at the Hospice we
                                                                                                                                                                             room more than me. The Hospice has provided a
care team at Maidstone Hospital. The whole thing
came as a total shock. In June, after a CT scan, I
                                                         were welcomed – me and my family. Within no
                                                         time at all I felt relaxed, which I hadn’t felt in a very
                                                                                                                     These things were all a reason for us to get together   light for me at one of the darkest times, and my        Step 3: Gift Aid it
                                                                                                                     and have an afternoon or evening of laughter. We        donations will help them do that for others too.
was told I was doing ok, my cancer and condition         long time. Being on the Ward lifted something
                                                                                                                     got to forget the reality for a little while.
was relatively stable. Two months later, I was told I    from me and I could be myself again.                                                                                                                                        Gift Aid is a simple way to increase the value
                                                                                                                                                                             Donating to the Christmas market is particularly        of your donation to Hospice in the Weald, at
only had months to live.”
                                                                                                                                                                             special. Making things that people will use to          no extra cost to you. If you are a UK taxpayer,
                                                         It’s not in human nature to accept that you’re
                                                                                                                                                                             celebrate Christmas is a very positive way to           Hospice in the Weald can reclaim the basic rate
 “The shock was unbelievable – I said to the             going to die, but we all will one day. Unfortunately
                                                                                                                                                                             support the Hospice and do something I enjoy.           tax (25%) on your donation. If you donate £20.00
consultant ‘it would’ve been better if you’d hit
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     using Gift Aid, this is worth £25.00 to Hospice in the Weald.
me with a truck’. Later on that day, I was told
that the Hospice could be the next step to help.           ‘From the moment we                                                                                               The key thing I’ve noticed about the Hospice
                                                                                                                                                                             is trying to make things as normal as possible.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Please tick the box and sign below.
I had the weekend in Hospital to think it over.
I knew I couldn’t go straight home, I was too              arrived at the Hospice                                                                                            Having chats or doing my crafts I can forget about
                                                                                                                                                                             being unwell. We have a big group of family and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     I am a UK taxpayer and understand that if I pay less Income Tax and/or Capital
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Gains Tax in the current tax year than the amount of Gift Aid claimed on all my
unwell and our house isn’t set up for my current                                                                                                                                                                                     donations it is my responsibility to pay any difference.
needs. However, I wasn’t sure I wanted to go to             we were welcomed –                                                                                               friends and its been so lovely having them come
                                                                                                                                                                             to visit, knowing they are taken care of. I also         Signature                                       Date
the Hospice. My perceptions were the same as
everyone else’s – I thought it was just a place              me and my family.’                                                                                              have someone stay with me every night, chatting,
                                                                                                                                                                             watching TV and still making memories. At the
people go to die. I just didn’t know any better, but
                                                                                                                                                                             Hospice, I don’t ever feel alone.”
I couldn’t have been further from the truth.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Please complete these details and send the form to:
  See Sarah’s story on our website,, or for more information                                                                                          Join Sarah and support Hospice in the Weald
  please contact Diane Webster, Relationship Fundraising Manager, on 01892 820 533 or                                                                                          this Christmas by completing the form attached,       Hospice in the Weald, Fundraising Department,
                                                                                                                          Sarah at her private performance of the Dad’s                                                                                                                                       or visit                     Maidstone Road, Pembury, Tunbridge Wells, TN2 4TA
                                                                                                                                                      Army Radio Show
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     or use the envelope enclosed in this newsletter.
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                                                                                                                 Hospice Voices                                                                                                                                                                               Hospice Voices
                                  I would
                                I would    like
                                        like to to  support
                                                 support  my
                                  my Hospice
                                local local Hospice.
                                                this Christmas
                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Words cannot fully express our gratitude
Step 1: Type of Donation
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   to the Hospice staff and volunteers
Regular Gift via Direct Debit                                                                                                                                                                                                for the selfless professionalism that everyone
I would like to make a                         monthly                quarterly          yearly                                                                                                                                    working and volunteering here give
donation of:                 £5          £10           £20             Other £                                                                                                                                                   to all families who support loved ones.
Paying by Direct Debit helps to keep our costs
down and means more of your money goes
directly to the Hospice.                                                                                                                                                                                              A couple of hours later, now          Jenny’s treatment was                     Jenny with Granddaughter
Please complete these details                                                                                                                                                                                         settled in at the Ward, I got a       seamlessly continued and the               Roseanna in the Labyrinth
Instruction to your bank or building society to pay by Direct Debit
                                                                            8 3 9 5 4 2                                                                                                                               message from our daughter who         attention from the Hospice
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      had been frantically searching for    team has been constant. The
 To the Manager (Bank/building society)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      flights. The thought of a Hospice     occupational therapy and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      creating visions of a place where     physio team were attending to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      her mum was coming to die. We         my wife as soon as she arrived
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      have since learnt that her reaction   with a practical yet gentle
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      is quite common, many people          exercise plan.
                                           Postcode                                                                                                                                                                   think a Hospice is just somewhere
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      you go to die. Our experience         The Ward is a place where
 Name of account holder                                                                                                                                                                                               demonstrates how Hospice in the       patients, families and carers
Sort code                                    Bank/building society account number                                                                                                                                     Weald is so much more.                celebrate and enjoy the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            precious time you have left.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      We’d had no previous direct           You are supported at every
Instructions to your bank or building society                                                                                                                                                                         experience of the Hospice but         turn and that helps you to feel
Please pay Hospice in the Weald Direct Debits from the account detailed in this instruction subject to
the safeguards assured by the Direct Debit Guarantee. I understand that this instruction may remain with                                                                                                              had been long-term fundraising        calm and tranquil.
Hospice in the Weald and, if so, details will be passed electronically to my bank/building society.                                                                                                                   supporters. We had only heard
 Signature(s)                                                            Date                                                                                                                                         good things but still did not know    Jenny came home on 15th              Despite so much going on at

Banks and building societies may not accept Direct Debit instructions from some types of account
                                                                                                             Warren and Jenny’s story                                                                                 what to expect and were, frankly,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      in a pretty confused state. We
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            August and continues to be
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            supported by the Hospice in
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 the Hospice, the ambience of
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 the building and grounds gives
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      were drowning and clinging to any     the Home team. The physio            comfort. The gardens are a
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      hope. But whatever expectations       and occupational therapy             peaceful haven for patients and
One-off gift                                                                                                Warren shares his experiences as his wife, Jenny, is cared for by the Hospice.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      we may have had have been             teams continue to be proactive       families – the tranquillity broken
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      exceeded in so many ways.             and visit to see what we would       only by the sound of a gentle
I wish to make a gift of  £20                           £35           £50         Other £
from my debit/credit card                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   need on a day-to-day basis.          water cascade, or by the sound
                                                                                                            “My wife has had leukaemia         hospital nurse said, “your wife   and supportive environment            Jenny with her daughter Emma         The equipment they have              of laughter as children, including
 Type of card                                                                                               for ten years and has been on      has a lot going on”. The news     -something the hospital is unable                                          organised has been invaluable        our own granddaughter
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        on a trip to Seaford, the week
                                                                                                            a maintenance chemotherapy         was devastating. Our lives had    to provide on a long-term basis.       after returning home from the       for my wife’s mobility               Roseanna, discover the Labyrinth
 Name on card                                                                                               regime for the last two-and-       changed irreversibly, and the                                                                                and helps us to attend               and the summer house.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       In-Patient Ward
                                                                                                            a-half. In June she suffered a     future seemed daunting and        Whilst in the Hospital we were                                             follow-up appointments.
 Card number
                                                                                                            fracture to her left hip socket    filled with hospital visits.      having a video conversation with                                                                                Words cannot fully express our
                                                                                                            which left her unable to weight                                      our daughter Emma, who lives                                               You may arrive at Hospice in the     gratitude to the Hospice staff
 Start date                                                Expiry date
                                                                                                            bear. She was admitted to          A huge weight was lifted when     in America, when nurses burst                                              Weald confused and scared,           and volunteers for the selfless
 Issue number                                              Security code                                    Pembury Hospital A&E, and          it was recommended that we        into my wife’s room to say, “OK,                                           but the team of staff and            professionalism that everyone
                                                                                                            scans showed secondary cancers     come to the In-Patient Ward.      get ready, you’re going to the                                             volunteers soon bring a feeling      working and volunteering here
(if applicable)                                            (this is the last 3 digits printed on the back
                                                           of the card on the signature strip)
                                                                                                            in her spine, left hip and in      Not only would Jenny’s care       Hospice in 30 minutes!” “What’s                                            of confidence and comfort to         give to all families who support
                                                                                                            her left lung. Although her        be continued and prioritised,     that?” our daughter asked,                                                 the patient and family. Their        loved ones. You really do feel
                                                                                                            leukaemia was well-controlled      but my wife would have            “Mum’s off to the Hospice?”                                                teamwork is so effective it almost   supported and part of a team.
Cheque I enclose a cheque for £                                                                             it soon became apparent that       physiotherapy and occupational                                                                               seems telepathic and this extends    Our lives have changed for
                                                                                                            the prognosis from her latest      therapy support at hand           “Speak to you later.” I signed off                                         to communication between the         ever, but the support we receive
Please make payable to Hospice in the Weald and attach to this completed                                    illnesses was poor; as the         too. All of this in a restful     in a hurry.                                                                Hospice the Hospital.                is invaluable.”
form and post to: Fundraising Team, Hospice in the Weald, Maidstone Road,
Pembury, Kent, TN2 4TA
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Ho Ho Hospice Rumble                                                                                                                                                        Christmas at Hospice in the Weald

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Choose your

                                                                                                                  Stitch a Stocking
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          needles and join

     Ho Ho Hospice Rumble                                                                                                                                                                         Stitch-a-Stocking
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           in our festive

     15th December The Schools at Somerhill                                                                       It’s the time of year when we call on our wonderful
                                                                                                                  creative community, who love to knit, stitch and
                                                                                                                  crochet, to help us create some wonderful gifts to sell at
                                                                                                                  Christmas and raise money for Hospice in the Weald.
                                                                                                                  The theme this year is Christmas stockings, and we’re asking                Do you prefer to knit,
                                                                                                                                                                                              speciality, we need your
                                                                                                                                                                                                                            sew or crochet? What
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   ever your stitching
                                                                                                                  people to either knit, crochet or stitch festive stockings that can         stockings for us to sell
                                                                                                                                                                                              money for Hospice in
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                help to create beautiful
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              in the local community
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      and raise vital
                                                                                                                                                                                                  Stockings will be on sale the Weald.
                                                                                                                  hold a sweet festive treat. These can be small stockings to hang                      made as many stockin
                                                                                                                                                                                            Will you choose to knit
                                                                                                                                                                                            perhapsdrop    them intoayour
                                                                                                                                                                                                                            from November,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                            gs as you’d
                                                                                                                                                                                                                         festive stocking withlike
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      priced at £2.00. Once you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     to, please fill out the details
                                                                                                                                                                                                      you’ll choose           local Hospice ina the sweet treat inside,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Weald charityto    hang fromslip    and

                                                                                                                  on the tree or larger stockings to hang from the hearth, filled
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      a Nordic   fabric                                                 the tree? Or
                                                                                                                                                                                            colourfuideas   and range
                                                                                                                                                                                                     l stockingsafilled    of Christmand     stitch
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         as stockinagstocking
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         shop. For    alterna tive
                                                                                                                                                                                                          hospiceinthew with chocolates                patternstuffed   with candy
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                s to stitch          canes. Or
                                                                                                                                                                                            stockingvisit                    eald.or       to hang from                      or
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Whichesew,     please crochet
                                                                                                                                                                                                                            ful gift
                                                                                                                                                                                                      will make a wonder                                   the hearth.          ver you choose, your
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         someone to give this Christm

                                                                                                                  with chocolates, candy canes and more. Stockings will be on
                                                                                                                                                                                           Once you have made as
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      many stockings as you’d
                                                                                                                                                                                           the details slip on reverse                          like to, please fill out

                                                                                                                  sale over the Christmas period in the Hospice shops, on the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       and drop them into your
                                                                                                                                                                                           Weald charity shop. For                                local Hospice in the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     alternative ideas and a
                                                                                                                                                                                           patterns to stitch or sew,                         range of Christmas stockin
                                                                                                                                                                                                                      please visit hospiceinthew                         g
                                                                                                                                                                                           will be on sale from Novem                     Stockings

                                                                                                                  website and at our Christmas Market and will make wonderful             On the back of this flyer
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        ber, priced at £2.00.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                    is a simple knitting pattern
                                                                                                                  gifts to give at Christmas.
                                                                                                                                                                                          create super stockings                                  for you to follow and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                  with a sweet treat to hang
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               from the tree.                         your stockings
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              by 4th November 2019
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                                                                                                                  Please pick up a flyer on the website or in one of our Hospice shops, and use the pattern to knit your
                                                                                                                  stocking. Or visit for alternative ideas and a range of Christmas stocking
                                                                                                                  patterns to stitch or sew.
                                                                                                                  Once you’ve made your stockings, please drop them into your local Hospice in the Weald charity
                                                                                                                  shop, or reception at the Hospice in Pembury. For more information please contact Diane on
                                                                                                                  01892 820533 or email

Our festive 5K Rumble is back! Run, walk or skip your way to the finish on
this fun family day. This year, Santas and Elves will go head to head along
our 5K route.                                                                                                      Christmas                                Saturday 23rd and
                                                                                                                                                            Sunday 24th November
This fun run is perfect for friends, family, colleagues and children to join in with the festivities. The event
returns to the stunning grounds of The Schools at Somerhill in Tonbridge where you will compete the
festive route, all while making sure you stay ahead of the other team. When you finish, enjoy a nice warm
                                                                                                                      Market                                Get your family into the festive spirit with over
                                                                                                                                                            45 stalls and workshops to make your favourite
cup of hot chocolate and a festive mince pie. This year will be our biggest yet, so come along and be a                                                     Christmas decorations. It’s the perfect time to find
part of team Santa or team Elf on 15th December.                                                                                                            wonderful presents for your friends and family, while

Which team will you be joining?                                                                                                                             also supporting the Hospice.
                                                                                                                                                            Our Christmas Market promises to be a memorable day out
                                                                                                                                                            for the children too as Father Christmas visits our Santa’s
  Team Santa                                    ✔           Team Elf                                      ✔                                                 Grotto, open both days from 11am to 3pm for just £5.
                                                                                                                                                            Wish upon a star and let your little one’s dream come true!
  The spectacular Santa Squad are back and                  This year the Pacy Penguins are packing their
                                                                                                                                                            Meet our enchanting Princesses and other magical characters
  ready to rumble! We all know Santa must be                bags and the Elves are taking up the mantel.
                                                                                                                                                            that will be creating magical moments for Children this year.
  super speedy to deliver all those Christmas               The Elves want to challenge their boss to see
  presents on Christmas eve on time. Join Team              who truly is the greatest of the north pole.                                                    Book a space in our bauble decorating and wreath
  Santa and race with your friends and family to            They believe with their years of experience                                                     making workshops now to make a special decoration.
  beat the Exceptional Elves this December!                 working together, building all the gifts every                                                  No need to bring anything - all the sparkle, glitter and
                                                            Christmas, they will overtake the Santa Squad.                                                  decorations provided!

  Sign up now to kick start the festive cheer at or contact Ben Greenstreet on           The Christmas Market is held at Hospice in the Weald, Pembury. For more information contact
  01892 820533 or for more details.                                      Michelle Winstone on 01892 820533 or

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Thank you                                                                                                                                                                                           Thank you

Look at all you’ve done!                                                                                     We must thank Bex, Anna,                                                 Thanks to St James’ Place
                                                                                                             Peter and Richard, all of whom                                           Wealth Management
                                                                                                             cycled the 1,000 mile route                                              Charitable Trust, who
                                                                                                             from Land’s to John O’Groats                                             donated a sum of £2,500
                                                                                                             for us earlier this year, through                                        after Megan, who works for
  If you’re inspired by what you see, get in touch to find out more about organising your own fundraising    sun, wind, rain and thunder in                                           the company, suggested the
  event or activity. Contact Chiara Creates on 01892 820533 or       memory of loved ones. It is an                                           Hospice after her brother Ryan
                                                                                                             extraordinary challenge and all                                          accessed our care. Altogether,
                                                                                                             of our cyclists raised incredible                                        Megan has raised an incredible
                                    Thank you to all of our Open         Thank you to Choice Stores in       amounts. We are so very proud:                                           £4,701.68 in his memory.
                                    Garden owners for what has           Tonbridge for donating a huge       thank you.                                                               Thank you!
                                    been an amazing year, raising        sum of £716, raised from your
                                    over £25,000. To all those who       carrier bag sales: an ingenious                                                                              Thank you to Wendy, who
                                    opened their gardens, baked          way to support us!                                                                                           held a 100th birthday party for
                                    cakes and served refreshments,                                                                                                                    her Gran earlier in the year, in
                                    and came along, thank you.                                                                                                                        memory of her Mum, Sheila,
                                                                                                                                                 Thank you to Alison Lucas for        and Dad, Tony. The party was
                                    Thank you to our supporters                                                                                  her annual fundraising tea-party,    a great success and enjoyed
                                    who attended the Sporting                                                                                    now in it’s 14th year!               by all and we are grateful to
                                    Dinner this year and raised                                                                                                                       Wendy for her kind support,
Thank you to the members            an incredible amount for                                                                                     Thank you also goes to Jilly,        which raised £552.90.
of #TeamWeald who cycled            the Hospice.                                                                                                 Angela and India who organised
the Prudential Ride London in                                                                                                                    a Time for Tea event for the         To the Singing For Fun Ladies
August and ran the Royal Parks                                                                                                                   mums of Claremont Primary            Choir Crowborough, thank
for us in October. You pushed                                            Enormous thanks must go to                                              School. A true team effort which     you for holding your summer
yourself to the limits to raise                                          Gillian Davis who has been                                              resulted in a tremendous £356.30     concert and raising £592 for
money and we are so proud.                                               organising musical concerts                                             raised for the Hospice. Well         the Hospice. We heard it was a
                                                                         since 2008 in aid of the Hospice,                                       done ladies, and thank you!          fantastic event!
                                                                         raising a staggering £11,301.49
                                                                         in total! The most recent concert
                                                                         took place in Sandhurst in July
                                                                         and raised £537.                      Introducing our new
                                                                                                               Great Wall of China Trek
                                                                                                               Hospice in the Weald supporter Polly has just got back
                                    Thank you to Sonia Burt and
                                    friends who walked 5k for us in                                            from her trek along the Great Wall of China. Here she talks
                                    July, raising a wonderful £3,442                                           about her once-in-a-lifetime adventure to raise money for
To Chipstead Football Club,         We are so thankful to the ladies                                           the Hospice.
thank you for organising your       for completing the challenge                                               “My Great Wall of China Trek was the most amazing adventure, and
Charity Tournament and donating     and are grateful for their support                                         I will treasure the experience as one of the best things I have ever
a fantastic £670 to the Hospice,    and that of all those who                                                  done. We were a small group and quickly made friends, supporting
what an impressive amount!          sponsored them.                                                            each other all through the trip. I didn’t know quite what to expect
Thank you to the organisers,                                                                                   from China, but it was fascinating to see the country, and the Wall
Knole Academy, all the players                                                                                 is deservedly called one of the Wonders of the World. Apart from
who took part and the crowds                                                                                   the wall itself, the views of the mountains are awesome. We trekked
who cheered them on!                                                                                           some of the restored parts as well as more remote, unrestored
                                                                                                               sections, all of which offered their own challenges. We were well
Huge thanks must go to                                                                                         looked after by our leaders, who understood the differences in
Mackenzie and Denver, who                                                To Lorraine and Gary, thank           cultures, and made sure we ate plenty of delicious Chinese food!”
picked local blackberries and                                            you for hosting your amazing
                                                                                                               Thank you to Polly for taking this on this challenge for the Hospice. You too could experience trekking
made smoothies and sold some                                             party in the garden shed for over
                                                                                                               the Great Wall of China on our trek next October. Find out more on our website or contact Chiara on
old toys and books to their                                              100 friends and family in aid of
                                                                                                      or 01892 820 533.
neighbours to raise money. We                                            Hospice in the Weald. What a
think you’re total superstars!                                           wonderful idea!

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Save the date                                                                                                                                                                                                         Save the date

Save the date
                                                                                                           Month Event Detail                        Date        Time          Address                Contact
                                                                                                                      Sporting Dinner                1st         7pm          Ashdown Park Hotel      Gemma Millen
                                                                                                                                                                                                      01892 820 506
                                                                                                                      £2 Outlet Sale                 1st – 2nd   9am-5pm      Sevenoaks Warehouse,    Kieran Draper
                                                                                                                                                                              13 Lime                 01892 820556
For further information please see                                                                                                               Tree Walk, Sevenoaks,

                                                                                                                                                                              TN13 1YH
                                                                                                                      Christmas Market               23rd –      10am - 4pm   Hospice in The Weald,   Michelle Winstone
 London Landmarks Half Marathon                         Carols at Christmas                                                                          24th                     Pembury                 01892 820 533
 29th March 2020                                        17th December 2019
                                                                                                                      Westerham Light up a Life      2nd         6:30pm       St Mary’s Church        Alison Nuttall
                                                                                                                                                                                                      01959 564403
                              Join #TeamWeald           Our candlelit Carols
                                                                                                                      East Peckham Light up a Life   5th         6:30pm       The Salvation Army,    Sue Morrell
                              for the London            at Christmas 2019                                                                                                     Freehold, East Peckham 01622 871150
                              Landmarks Half            promises to be an                                             £2 Outlet Sale                 6th – 7th   9am-5pm      Sevenoaks Warehouse,    Kieran Draper
                              Marathon 2020.            evening of festive                                                                                                    13 Lime Tree Walk,      01892 820550
                                                                                                                                                                              Sevenoaks, Kent,
                              The race is already       carols, music and                                                                                                     TN13 1YH
                              a firm favourite          readings, lovingly                                            Light up a Life 2019           7th         5:30pm-      Hospice in the Weald,   Hospice Direct 01892820500
                              in the London             performed by local                                                                                       8:00pm       Pembury
                              calendar, passing         choirs. Join us in the                                        Crowborough Light up a Life    7th         4:30pm (tea) All Saints Church       Suzanne Hall
                                                                                                                                                                 5pm (service)                        01892 652 081
                              iconic landmarks          pews in the very heart
                                                                                                                      Paddock Wood Light up a Life   7th         3pm          St Andrews Church       Jean Saggers
                              and through live          of Tonbridge School                                                                                                                           01892 833171
 music and dance acts, themed cheer stations            chapel and enjoy a                                            Hawkhurst Light up a Life      7th         6pm          St Lawrence Church      Jean Shill
 and buzzing crowds. Only a few places remain.          heartwarming evening                                                                                                                          01580 753841
                                                        of Christmas magic.                                           Tonbridge Light up a Life      7th         3pm          St Peters & St Pauls    Jane Higgs
 Sign up on our website to run in memory of                                                                                                                                   Church                  01732 770962
 a loved one and raise vital funds, or contact          Tickets available on our website: £15 adults and              Chevening Light up a Life      9th         7pm          Chipstead Green,        Judith Hayton
 Chiara on 01892 820533 or                              £8 children or contact Chiara on 01892 820533                                                                         Chevening Road          07981 759255                or                    Ho Ho Hospice Rumble 2019      15th        11am         The Schools             Michelle Winstone
                                                                                                                                                                              at Somerhill            01892 820 533

                                                                                                            Jan Dec
                                                                                                                      Carols at Christmas 2019       17th        6pm          Tonbridge School        Chiara Creates
                                                                                                                                                                                                      01892 820 533
                                                    Great Wall of China Trek                                          £2 Outlet Sale                 3rd – 4th   9am-5pm      Sevenoaks Warehouse,    Kieran Draper
                                                                                                                                                                              13 Lime Tree Walk,      01892 820556
                                                    10th – 18th October 2020                                                                                                  Sevenoaks,    
                                                    Take on a new challenge, remember a loved one                                                                             TN13 1YH
                                                    and celebrate life as you trek through along the
                                                    Great Wall of China on this once-in-a-lifetime
                                                    experience. Take on the twists, turns, ups and
                                                    downs of the most famous wall of all and raise
                                                                                                                                                              Remember your loved one with an inscribed
                                                    money to help patients, families and carers enjoy                                                         leaf in our beautiful Memory Orchard
                                                    the precious time they have together.                                                                     As the heat of summer fades and the days become shorter, the
                                                    Find out more on our website hospiceintheweald.                                                           Hospice gardens are bathed in the warmth of autumn colours
                                           or                                                        and leaves turning red, gold and brown fall gently from the trees.
                                                    or contact Chiara on 01892 820533 or                                                                      Overlooking the local orchards and oast houses in the peaceful
                                                                                                             Hospice gardens is the stunning new Memory Orchard – a beautiful
                                                                                                                                                              sculpture, holding memories of loved ones on copper leaves
                                                                                                                                                              glowing in the late afternoon sunshine.
                                                                                                           Choosing to hang a personalised copper leaf, inscribed with the name of a loved one, is such a special
 Smile! It’s Christmas                                                                                     way to remember. Your loved one’s name will be inscribed on a leaf, which will hang on the beautiful
                                                                                                           Memory Orchard for a year (or longer if you wish to make an additional donation). For a suggested
 For supporters using Amazon for their Christmas Shopping, using Amazon Smile is an easy way to            donation of £120 for each leaf, your support will directly help local families coming to terms with a
 support the Hospice at the same time, at no extra cost! Using Amazon Smile means Amazon sends             devastating diagnosis and will be a lasting tribute in memory of your loved one.
 donations to your chosen charity when you shop.
                                                                                                           To find out more or personalise your own Memory Orchard leaf visit
 Head to to get set up!                                                                 fundraise/memory-orchard or call Diane Webster, Relationship Fundraising Manager on 01892 820533.

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7 th                                      Join us this December
     DECEMBER                                   to remember and celebrate
     2019 at 5:00pm
                                                      your loved ones

Remember someone
special at this time of
year by supporting
Hospice in the Weald
The Light up a Life
service is on the
7th December at the
Hospice in Pembury,
at 5.00pm.

W       e know that the absence of a
        loved one can be deeply felt at
this time of year, and we never forget
                                                         carers, can make the most of their time
                                                         together, creating special memories and
                                                         making them as comfortable as possible in
those who touch our hearts and can no                    the places they most want to be. Support
longer be with us. At Hospice in the                     Hospice in the Weald with a gift today so we
Weald we strive to ensure that patients                  can reach everyone in our community who
with a terminal illness, their families and              needs our care.

For more information, please call Leeann Wilmer on 01892 820507 or email
Or you can visit our website

Hospice in the Weald | Maidstone Road | Pembury | Tunbridge Wells | TN2 4TA       Registered Charity No. 280276
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