WHAT'S YOUR MARRIAGE STORY? - SO, YOU WANT TO DIVORCE A SOCIOPATH?

WHAT’S YOUR MARRIAGE
              STORY?

       SO, YOU WANT TO DIVORCE A SOCIOPATH?

DID I MARRY A
SOCIOPATH?

•   FACTS: 1-25 people is a sociopath!
•   1. LIES, AND HAS NO REMORSE
•   2. IMPULSIVE
•   3. CAN BE VIOLENT (NOT JUST
    PHYSICALLY!/VERBALLY)
•   4. DOES NOT TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
•   5. CHARMER
•   6. MIRRORS YOU (LIKE EVERYTHING YOU LIKE)
    MANIPULATIVE, CONTROL, DOMINATE
•   7. WILL TAKE HOSTAGES (WILL DO ANYTHING
    TO HOOK YOU)
•   8. WEARS THE MASK OF SANITY (BUT WILL
    REVEAL CRACKS)

“COVERT NARCISSIST” aka Sociopath

•   ME ME ME
•   Jeckyl/Hyde
•   Motto: “This is My world and you’re just living in it.”
•   GASLIGHT: They’ll say they care about you, love you but their
    actions won’t support their words. They’ll scream and yell at you
    and mess with your thoughts until they make you believe you’re
    the source of the problem. They’ll break you down, break your
    spirit until you’re depressed, isolated, run down and then they’ll
    move on.

LAWYERS

          DOCTORS

WHO ARE   CEO’s
 THEY?
          SURGEONS

          BEWARE THE PERSON BEHIND THE
          COSTUME…

LIKE BOB, THE DOCTOR

• I CAN BE WHOMEVER YOU WANT ME TO BE, I AM A CHAMELEON
• I WILL LEARN EVERYTHING ABOUT YOU, I WILL LOVE WHAT YOU LOVE/HATE
  WHAT YOU HATE, I WILL CONVINCE YOU I AM NORMAL
• I WILL LOVE YOU TO DEATH—WRITE HUNDREDS OF EMAILS IN A MONTH,
  TEXT YOU SEVERAL TIMES A DAY AND CALL, I WILL DRAIN YOU
• I WILL CONVINCE YOU I LOVE YOU, BUT YOU’LL JUST BE AN OPPORTUNITY
  TO REINVENT MYSELF, ANOTHER ONE HIT WONDER.
• I HAVE NO REAL IDENTITY; I CAN BE CHARMING, OR A BUM, DEPENDS ON
  WHO I’M WITH. I GET MY SELF WORTH BY BEING FAKE
• WHEN I GET TIRED OF SOMEONE, I MOVE ON WITHOUT REMORSE OR
  REGRET.
• IF YOU MEET SOMEONE WHO IS TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE, WALK AWAY
• TAKE IT FROM ME, I’m a sociopath.

• WHEN WE FIRST MET I FELT AS IF I’D
  KNOWN HIM MY WHOLE LIFE. WE HIT IT OFF
  RIGHT AWAY. I THOUGHT HE WAS
  HILARIOUS. HE ADORED MY SON,
  SHOWERED ME WITH GIFTS, QUOTED
  CHEESY LINES FROM JERRY MCGUIRE, ALL
  THE WHILE SLOWLY CANNIBALIZING MY
  LIFE.                                    SAMANTHA
                                                (THE
                                             LAWYER)

• VICTIMS ARE DEPENDENT ON SOCIOPATH
                  • FEARFUL OF SOCIOPATH
           MIND
                  • HAVE TROUBLE MAKING DECISIONS
 CONTROL/EVEN     • MAY HAVE FINANCIAL CONSIDERATIONS
SAM THE LAWYER    • NOT SO EASY TO JUST LEAVE
      WILL HAVE   • TAKING ON A SOCIOPATH CAN BE DAUNTING AND
   DIFFICULTY….     TRAUMATIC
                  • THEY CAN BE MORE DEVIOUS THAT YOU’D EVER
                    IMAGINED

MARRIAGE STORY SAMANTHA/BOB

• SAMANTHA: BOB TOOK ALL MY MONEY, PLUNGED ME INTO DEBT,
  HAD MULTIPLE AFFAIRS AND EVEN A SECOND FAMILY!
• IT’S SO OBVIOUS HE’S A CON-ARTIST

• BOB: SAMANTHA’s THE CRAZY ONE, SHE’s THE GOLD DIGGER, THE
  ADULTERESS, PLUNGED ME INTO DEBT, AND HAS BEEN VIOLENT
  TOWARDS ME! I’M THINKING ABOUT GETTING MY OWN ORDER OF
  PROTECTION!

MARRIAGE STORY: TRUE CASES

   SHELL OF A PERSON/SHELL SHOCKED/SHELL
   GAME

5 FACTS/ DIVORCING A SOCIOPATH

•   1. YOU WILL NEVER BE ABLE TO ENTIRELY DIVORCE THEM!!
•   2. DO NOT EXPECT THEM TO BE CIVIL DURING/AFTER DIVORCE
•   3. HEALTHY RESPONSIBLE CO-PARENTING WILL NEVER HAPPEN
•   4. YOU CANNOT BEAT THEM AT THEIR OWN GAME
•   5. GET A THERAPIST!!

MUSTS FOR DIVORCING
A SOCIOPATH
• 1. YOU NEED A GOOD ATTORNEY!!! KBUNITED!
• 2. THE SOCIOPATH WILL HAVE HIS DAY IN COURT (RARELY
  SETTLE AND IF THEY DO, THEY WILL NOT SIGN THE
  DECREE!!) OR VIOLATE IMMEDIATELY [KBUNITED 28 YEARS
  TRIAL EXPERIENCE]
• 3. THEY LIE (EVEN ON COURT DOCUMENTS/EVEN IN
  COURT)
• 4. COURT ORDERS MEAN NOTHING [MUST FILE
  ENFORCEMENT ACTIONS!]
• 5. IT’S CRITICAL TO PROVE A PATTERN OF BEHAVIOR
• 6. THE COURT DOESN’T HELP YOU COLLECT YOUR
  MONEY!!

WHAT TO EXPECT

• 1. THE ABUSE WILL INCREASE (MENTALLY, VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY)
• 2. MANIPULATION WILL INCREASE [EMOTIONAL ABUSE]
• 3. NEVER UNDERESTIMATE THE SOCIOPATH
• 4. WILL BLACKEN YOUR CHARACTER, YOUR FRIENDS’ CHARACTER,
  YOUR FAMILIES’, THEY WILL “INVESTIGATE” YOU FOR ALLEGED
  CRIMES, THREATEN YOU WITH RETRIBUTION.
• THEY WILL TRY TO TAKE CHILDREN AWAY, DEFAME A PERSON’S
  CHARACTER, TRY TO GET THAT PERSON FIRED.

DIVORCING THE SOCIOPATH CAN BE TRICKY

• GET HELP—FIND AN EXPERT IN MIND CONTROL AND SOCIOPATHY

• THE FACT THAT YOU WANT A DIVORCE IS EVIDENCE THAT
  SOCIOPATH IS LOSING CONTROL

• NOT EVERYONE HAS A VOICE

• LET KBUNITED BE THE VOICE HE/SHE ONCE   EVERYONE
                                              HAS A
  SILENCED

                                          MARRIAGE
                                           STORY….