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Contents
                                                                                                                 37
Express Yourself                                                                             Program Spotlight:
                                                                                          Grow Dat Youth Farm
14   Photography Submissions

Teen Writing:
                                           Have Fun
8    A Constant Reminder
33   The Black Girl Diaries                3       What’s Happening in New Orleans

38   Student of the Struggles              4       Dat’s My Jam
                                           5       Must Read Books this Summer
                                           27      Hair & Makeup: Spa Sleepover
Be Well
                                           37      Program Spotlight: Grow Dat

9    Yoga: Partner Poses                   42      Hangout Spots

12   Girls Giving Advice: Periods          43      Ruby’s Zodiac Skincare Guide

16   The Savage Makeover:                  45      Mystic Moons
     Your Personality
22   Real Talk                             Expand Your Mind
24   Stirrups, Speculum, Pap Smear,
     Oh My                                 19      You Geaux Girl: Audrey Ligier

34   Summer Skin Care
                                           30      College Q&A

39   Be Safe, Y’all
40   Rémy’s Recipe

                        Meet Louisiana's
                                                                                                            27
                      First Transgender                                                                        Spa
                      Homecoming Queen                                                                   Sleepover!

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                                           The cover photograph was taken by Kelly Yu, who was then a senior at
                                           Lusher Charter School and is now going to study film production at the
                                           University of Southern California. Kelly took this photo over the summer
                                           for her Instagram account (@itskelieephoto) for which she was aiming
                                           to take portraits that captured the feeling of summer. The model in the
                                           picture is Caroline Thaking, who Kelly met through Instagram. “Caroline
                                           is not only beautiful and so good at what she does, but also so sweet and
                                           kind,” Kelly told us. “My favorite memory from one of our shoots is when
                                           I had her pose with an umbrella that I attached a pink smoke grenade to.
                                           Needless to say, it backfired. But it looked so cool that someone stopped by
                                           to take a polaroid of her.” See more of Kelly’s work on page 27!

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LETTER FROM THE EDITOR:

             The Geaux Girl! team and I wish all of you a wonderful summer filled with adventures and fun times. Summer
            marks the end of something, but most of all, summer means freedom and new experiences. Fresh beginnings are
            already on the horizon. At the end of summer, there’ll be a new grade, possibly a new school, maybe even college.

             I would like to single out three young ladies who will be going off to college in the fall. Elena, Y’vonne, and
               Nitzayah, you all have made invaluable contributions to this magazine as members of our Teen Advisory
            Council. Thank you for being awesome girls, congrats on this big milestone in your lives, and best of luck for
              your transition to college! You geaux, girls!! Y’vonne, we are thrilled that you’ll be staying close as a Tulane
            University student and will be joining our core GG team. We are also excited for our team member Melanie’s
                    upcoming semester abroad in Sweden. We’ll be welcoming you back with open arms, Melanie!

            I have been thinking a lot about all the people who have made this issue possible. Without our incredible team
             of volunteers and the talented women and girls in our community who contribute mind-blowingly awesome
              content, you wouldn’t be reading this magazine right now. And just as important, Geaux Girl! wouldn’t be
               here without the support of many kind and generous people who believe in what we do and provide us
                            with the resources to produce, publish, and distribute this beautiful magazine.

            For this issue, we were very fortunate to receive an overwhelming number of donations through GiveNOLA
            Day. We are indebted to the Greater New Orleans Foundation for coordinating this day of giving in support
           of local nonprofits. For a tiny organization like us, it made an enormous difference. A heartfelt THANK YOU
            to each and every donor that day; you all contributed to this issue and our work moving forward. Thank you
                 to everyone who is part of our village because it truly takes a village to make Geaux Girl! happen.

                             Alright, y’all, enjoy this issue, have a GREAT summer, stay safe, and be yourself!

                                                        With love and appreciation,

                                                                Heide

   Geaux Girl! is a print and online magazine created for and with New Orleans teen girls to inform, inspire, engage, and empower.

                                          GEAUX GIRL MEDIA IS A 501(C)(3) NONPROFIT ORGANIZATION.           Teen Advisory Council
     Editor in Chief: HEIDE WINSTON

      Creative Director: LIZ JUREY                    Executive Director: HEIDE WINSTON                     Naomi-Corrine Adler
                                                                                                               Claire Ahlquist
Social Media & Brand Management Volunteer:                    Board of Directors                                 Mae Anglim
          COURTNEY PELLEGRINI                               HEIDE WINSTON (Chair)                             Y’vonne Antoine
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                                                               DANIELLE DEL SOL
      Project Management Volunteer:                                                                            Evelynn Coffie
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            MELANIE CARBERY                                                                                   Isabella Danzig
                                                                                                                 Ella Densen
                                                                   Officers
      Community Outreach Volunteer:                                                                             Kaitlyn Jones
                                                    HEIDE WINSTON (President & Secretary)
         ERIN ZIMMER STRENIO                                                                                   Amber Parson
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             Printing: MPRESS                                                                                   Genesis Scott
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WEDNESDAYS, JUNE 5 –                                  SUNDAY, JUNE 9                                      FRIDAY, JULY 5 –
        AUGUST 7                                                                                              SUNDAY, JULY 7
                                                         Family Equality Day
    “Truth be Told” Creative                   What: Celebrate diversity and inclusion
                                                                                                     25th Anniversary Essence Festival
       Writing Workshop                        during Pride Week 2019 at this family-                What: ESSENCE Festival is the largest
                                               centered event on the Longue Vue grounds.             celebration of African American music,
What: Creative writing workshop for
high school students (ages 14-18) who          When: 10:00am–1:00pm                                  beauty, health, entrepreneurship and
have been directly or indirectly impacted                                                            more. Former First Lady Michelle
                                               Where: Longue Vue House and Gardens,
by incarceration. The workshop aims to                                                               Obama will headline the festival’s
                                               7 Bamboo Rd.
chip away at stigma and create a space for                                                           commemorative 25th year.
artistic healing through a variety of imagi-   (Parking is limited. Please bike, carpool, or ride-
                                                                                                     Where:  Ernest N. Morial Convention
native approaches to self-expression. Final    share. There is no parking on Bamboo Rd.)
                                                                                                     Center, Mercedes Benz Superdome,
work will be published in a class magazine.                                                          Contemporary Arts Center, and Louis
When: 9:30am–12:15pm                                                                                 Armstrong Park
Where: NOLA Spaces, 1719 Toledano St.
                                                         SUNDAY, JUNE 16

                                                         Juneteenth Festival                              THURSDAY, AUGUST 1
         FRIDAY, JUNE 7                        What: Celebration of the Juneteenth
                                               Holiday recognizing the emancipation                     “Connected to the Crown”
     Baby Cakes Pride Game                     of all slaves in the United States of                            Workshop
                                               America. Featuring live musical
What: Celebrate the kickoff of New Orleans
                                               performances, spoken word artists, brass              What:   Free floral crown class, full course
Pride with the New Orleans Baby Cakes vs.                                                            meal, guest speaker, and much fun for
                                               bands, local student bands, and speeches
Sacramento River Cats and fireworks. Pro-                                                            teenage girls ages 11-18. This empowering
                                               from community leaders.
ceeds of this second annual LGBT-friendly                                                            workshop will feature topics such as
game will benefit Crescent Care.               Where: 2500 Bayou Rd.
                                                                                                     self-esteem, inner being, style, higher
When: 7:00-10:00pm                                                                                   education, and wearing your crown!
Where: Shrine on Airline, 6000 Airline Dr.                                                           When: 12:00-3:00pm

(Tickets are $10.)                                                                                   Where: Arts Estuary, 1024 Elysian Fields Ave.

                                                                                                        FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 20 –
                      June is                                                                            SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 22
                       LGBT
                     Pride                                                                                   Fried Chicken Festival
                                                                                                            A free outdoor festival that
                     Month!                                                                          What:
                                                                                                     brings food, music, family and festivities
                                                                                                     together in celebration of a classic
                                                                                                     Southern dish.
                                                                                                     Where: Woldenberg Riverfront Park

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Favorite happy song: “Sunflower” by Post Malone & Swae Lee
                                                                     Favorite feel-good movie: Superfly
    Best song to cry your eyes out to: “W.A.Y.S.” by Jhené Aiko
                                                                     Saddest movie of all time: Roots
    Song I’m embarrassed to admit I love: “Thotiana” by
    Blueface                                                         TV show I’m embarrassed to admit I love: Nickelodeon shows
                                                                     Best TV show hands down: Bring It!
    Song that makes me dance like nobody’s watching:
    “Truth Hurts” by Lizzo                                           Favorite local movie theater: AMC because the seats are
                                                                     comfortable.
        Gracie (15), Mount Carmel Academy
                                                                         Briana (14), KIPP Morial Middle School
    Favorite happy song: “Comme Tu Es” (feat. Alonzo) by Jok’Air
                                                                     Favorite feel-good movie: The Wizard of Oz
    Best song to cry your eyes out to: “Losin Control” by Russ
                                                                     Saddest movie of all time: My Sister’s Keeper
    Song I’m embarrassed to admit I love: “Fergalicious” by          TV SHOW I’m embarrassed to admit I love: Love Island
    Fergie
                                                                     Best TV show hands down: Brooklyn Nine-Nine
    Song that makes me dance like nobody’s watching: “Snap
    Yo Fingers” (feat. E-40 & Sean Paul of YoungBloodZ) by Lil Jon   Favorite local movie theater: Prytania Theatre. I love that it
                                                                     has so many options. It even shows foreign films and classic films.
        Olivia (18), St. Martin’s Episcopal School                   It is also super cute.

                                                                         Grace (17), Archbishop Chapelle High School
    Favorite happy song: “Heaven” by Kane Brown
    Best song to cry your eyes out to: “Heaven” by Julia             Favorite feel-good movie: Avengers: Endgame (Yes, I watched it)
    Michaels                                                         Saddest movie of all time: 12 Years a Slave
    SONG I’m embarrassed to admit I love: “This Is Me” by Demi       movie I’m embarrassed to admit I love: To All the Boys I’ve
    Lovato                                                           Loved Before
    Song that makes me dance like nobody’s watching: “Can            Best TV show hands down: Justice League or Black Lightning
    We Dance” by The Vamps                                           or All American

        Ludovica (16), Cabrini High School                           Favorite local movie theater: AMC theaters (Westbank and
                                                                     Elmwood)

                                                                         Maliyah (14), KIPP Morial Middle School

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Sal and Gabi Break
                                                                                                              the Universe
                                                                                                              by Carlos Hernandez
                                                                                                               What it’s about: Sal Vidón
                                                                                                               is the new kid in school who
                                                                                                               ends up in the principal’s of-
                                                                                                               fice after only three days. But
                                                                                                               why should he just accept
                                                                                                               bullying when he can open a
                                                                                                               portal to another universe for
                                                                      the purpose of leaving a raw chicken in his bully’s locker? Gabi Real
                                                                      is student council president and editor of the school newspaper,
                                                                      and she doesn’t miss a trick. When she finds out about Sal’s pow-
                                                                      ers, which include being able to conjure things much larger than a
                                                                      chicken, and takes it in stride, they begin an unlikely friendship that
                                                                      may end up breaking (or fixing) the entire universe.
                                                                      Why read it? Multiverse hijinks, humor, sci-fi, and magic, this
             this summer                                              exciting adventure story has all that and is full of characters that
                                                                      you’ll want to root for.

                                                                                                               Stepsister
                                                                                                               by Jennifer Donnelly
                                                                                                               What it’s about: Isabelle is
                                                                                                               an ugly stepsister. She tried
                                                                                                               to fit in, cut away pieces of
                                       If It Makes                                                             herself—literally and figu-
                                       You Happy                                                               ratively—to become more
                                       by Claire Kann                                                          like sweet and beautiful
                                        What it’s about: Winnie                                                Cinderella, but she didn’t
                                        has finished high school                                               get the happily ever after.
                                        and is looking forward                                                 Now she’s been made into
                                        to living her best fat girl                                            an unwitting pawn in a wa-
                                        life and spending her last                                             ger between Chance and
                                        summer before college                                                  Fate, until an offer from
                                        someplace she considers                                                a fairy queen gives her a
                                        to be the best place on                                                chance to alter her destiny.
                                        earth: her Granny’s diner     Why read it? Donnelly doesn’t just fracture this fairy tale, she
                                        in the small town of Misty    shatters it. Isabelle gets her own completely original adventure
                                        Haven. All she wants is to    and her journey leads toward empowerment and the realization
                                        wear her 50s inspired uni-    that ugly, just like beauty, is in the eye of the beholder.
                                        form, earn tips, and spend
time with her family and ungirlfriend. But then she unexpectedly
becomes Misty Haven’s Summer Queen and is forced to take cen-
ter stage in photo shoots, attend a never-ending list of royal com-
munity engagements, and interact with the Summer King—things
that she discovers terrify her.                                                         These recommendations were provided by
                                                                                      Kacy Helwick, Youth Collection Development
Why read it? This is a character-driven story, and Winnie, who                        Librarian at the New Orleans Public Library.
has to conquer her fears, defy expectations, and embrace her
cultural and sexual identity, is a great character in an incredibly
enjoyable book.

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A Constant Reminder
                                                BY   Lillie Bates

                    EVERYONE experiences anxiety in their life, whether it is when you are
                    standing in front of your class giving a presentation that could determine
                    your entire grade for the quarter or the time you forgot to hand in a paper
                    you were supposed to give to your teacher the day before. Anxiety has
                    always been around and can be triggered by many different things. It
                    has also always been something that not only teenagers experience,
                    but adults too. Maybe your grandfather suffers from anxiety and
                    you just have no idea. But why is that? Why do people choose to
                    not talk about how they are feeling or what is going on in their
                    lives? Is it because they don’t want to bore others with this subject
                    matter? Or maybe it is because they don’t think someone else could
                    relate and give them the words of advice they want to hear, or even
                    worse, maybe it’s because they don’t want your help.
                       Anxiety is not a topic that easily gets brought up in conversation.
                    However, it should not be an excuse to not do something
                    challenging. Anxiety might be what prevents you from having the
                    courage to overcome fear, but it doesn’t make it impossible. Isn’t it
                    ridiculous how a feeling can make you question everything!? It can fill
                    your brain with horrible thoughts that make you hate yourself. Anxiety is
                    a constant reminder that everyone is better than you, that you will never get
                    anywhere in life. Or is it? Maybe subconsciously your brain created this idea of
                    anxiety to better you, to want you to become the best you possible.
                       But that doesn’t sound right. Isn’t it possible that what we experience around us
                    affects the way we think, the way we look at ourselves?
                       Let’s take social media. Do not get me wrong, I love it. I use social media to talk to my
                    friends, the ones who do and don’t live here. But it is filling our brains with information that
                    we do not need. Take models for example. We are told that they are the ideal of beauty for men
                    and women, that if we do not have the perfect skin, if we do not have a skinny body, then we
                    are not beautiful. What is that? What is beauty? Can’t anyone be beautiful without having the
                    “perfect” skin or the “perfect” body? Trust me, I’ve thought this through over and over, but what is
                    there to do? It is as if we have all been brainwashed into thinking a small majority of the population
                    is beautiful, which is completely false. We have created crazy standards, and these standards lead to
                    anxiety for many of us, and anxiety can create depression. So let’s look at it this way: no matter what
                    you think, no matter what they say, you are the most beautiful person alive, and we all know it.

                            Lillie Bates is a rising sophomore at Lusher Charter School and wants to major in psychology
                            later on in the future. In her free time, Lillie enjoys hanging out with her friends.

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Partner
                                                    Yoga Poses
                                                     By Laurie Azzano of Lolo’s Youth Studio

 Yaaaas, finally! Hello, summer! Inhale deadlines. Exhale freedom.
                                                          freedom
If you’re like most, summer represents one big sigh of relief. No more early morning alarm
clocks, homework, tests, school drama, or crazy, overscheduled schedules. Finally, you get to
                           take a break and relax… and have fun!

As good as yoga is for helping you focus, build strength, and find calm, it can also be a ton of
 fun! Partner poses allow you to benefit from all the cool things yoga has to offer (develop
core strength ; help with balance ; build physical strength ; increase focus ) and have a
blast with your besties at the same time! So grab a friend and get on the mat... or the grass,
  beach, whatever. Yoga anywhere, everywhere! Whether you’re on a stay-cay or vay-cay, all
                   you need is a friend to have fun with yoga this summer.
             Ava and Eva of Isidore Newman School and Eleanore and Adison of NOLA Micro
  Our models—Ava
              Schools—are excited to show you their favorite partner poses.

                                                                  tag lolo’s on insta to win!
              Lolo’s Studio                                          1. Follow @lolosyouthyoga on Insta
                                                                    2. Post pic of you and a friend in
              is New Orleans’ first youth-centered yoga
                                                                    your favorite partner pose
              studio. Through yoga, fitness, and art, Lolo’s is
              bringing body + mind together and helping youth       3. Tag two friends
              tap into their internal power so they can better      4. Tag Lolo’s to be entered to win
              manage physical and mental stress. Learn more         a free 10-week Yoga + Leadership
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double dog
                                                             Down Dog is a great pose for building strength in the
                                                             upper body while also stretching out the shoulders and
                                                             arms and the backs of the legs. To turn Down Dog into
                                                             a fun partner pose, simply have one friend get into Down
                                                             Dog. The partner will stand about 12 inches in front and
                                                             go into a Forward Fold pose, placing her hands on the
                                                             ground. Slowly raise one leg and place it gently onto the
                                                             lower back of your partner. Take a good inhale and gently
                                                             lift your other leg and place it onto your partner’s lower
                                                             back alongside your other foot. It looks a lot harder
                                                             than it is! So be sure to give it a try. Barking optional.

                                                  double tree
               Tree is a great pose to work on your balance and ability to
          concentrate. However, we admit that striking your Double Tree
           pose with your BFF might lead to more giggles than focus. But,
              hey, yoga + fun = yay! Stand next to each other in Mountain
         pose, then each raise your outside leg, bend your knee and place
             the heel of your foot to rest on your standing leg. If you're
              feeling shaky, start low and place your foot at the ankle of
           your standing leg. You can go higher with your bent leg as your
             stability allows. And as partners, you're able to support each
         other by interlacing your arms, either at your heart or reaching
                     them above your head for extra effort. Stay strong!

                                                          double boat
                                                          This is one of my favorite poses to strengthen the core.
                                                          By practicing it with a friend, you get to develop your
                                                          strength and your friendship at the same time! Start
                                                          seated facing each other with your legs bent. Hold hands
                                                          on the outside of your legs, then connect the soles of
                                                          your feet and press into your feet to lift and extend
                                                          one leg up at a time. Then extend the other leg. For an
                                                          added degree of complexity, use your core to help you
                                                          balance while slowly bringing each leg outside of your
                                                          arms for a wide boat pose. Bon Voyage!

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supported forward fold
     A great, easy pose to help stretch out your arms,
   shoulders, and backside. Great for swimmers, tennis,
      volleyball and basketball players, or anyone with a
     tight upper body, lower back and hamstrings. Face
      each other and place your hands on each other’s
   shoulders. Take a step back and bend forward from
    the hips, getting as much distance as your muscles
          will allow (particularly those tight hamstrings).
   Breathe in, breathe out. With each exhale, see if you
    can release yourself a little more into the stretch.

                                                              elevator pose
                                                              A fun pose to see just how much you trust your
                                                              bestie! Stand facing away from each other, as far
                                                              apart as possible but close enough so that you can
                                                              still reach out and hold hands. Then, still holding hands,
                                                              start to lean back and begin bending your knees to
                                                              slowly lower into Chair pose. Continue to lower down
                                                              as far as you can while still supporting and holding
                                                              onto each other (you can link your arms instead of
                                                              holding hands). Then come back up together. This is a
                                                              great pose to work on building leg strength together.
                                                              You can enjoy going up    and down      in your elevator
                                                              to build your yogi power.

                             lizard on a rock
 This a great pose to open up the chest, lengthen the spine,
    and help develop your Wheel pose. The “rock” will start in
Child’s pose, while the “lizard” will sit gently on the “base”—or
 low back of the “rock.” Then the lizard will slowly backbend
over the rock, extending her arms over the rock. The rock
      can grab the lizard’s hands to help deepen the stretch.
   When the lizard is ready to come off, the rock can slowly
     arch her back to help the lizard roll up and off. Be sure
   to switch roles/poses so that everyone gets a chance to
                              stretch. Rock on!       (Ha, get it?)

                                                                                                     GEAUX GIRL! SUMMER 2019   11
Periods
                       We sat down with four awesome
                ladies of our Teen Advisory Council—
               Kaitlyn (14), Amber (12), Adler (17), and
                   Evelynn (17)—to chat about periods.

    Any fun names for your period?                                        Adler: I was 13 and it happened on a band trip to Disney World
                                                                          in Orlando. I was the only girl in the band. Initially, I thought I
    Adler: “Shark week” is a popular one. “I’ve fallen to the
                                                                          had gotten food poisoning or had too much root beer and poo’d
    communists” from The IT Crowd. I’ve also heard “the tide is
                                                                          myself. I hate when books describe the first period as a rose pet-
    coming,” “tampon drive,” “my red flower is blooming,” and “my
                                                                          al between your legs. Mine was murderous. There was so much
    moon door is open.” The last two are from Game of Thrones.
                                                                          blood. I put on a bathrobe over my clothing and went to find the
    Kaitlyn: “Japan is attacking” (because of the national flag). My      female chaperone. She gave me a week’s worth of panty liners. I
    friends and I usually say, “My uterus is dying.”                      used those and Disney princess napkins for the rest of the trip.
    Evelynn: My mom uses names like “Aunt Flo.”                           Kaitlyn: I was 11 and woke up soaked in my own blood. I was
                                                                          terrified. I was like, ‘What happened in the middle of the night?
    Amber: I don’t know a lot of period slang because I don’t really      Did the dog attack me?’ I didn’t realize where the blood was com-
    talk about my period with my friends because they don’t have          ing from. I didn’t go to my mom. She found out because she saw
    their periods yet.                                                    the blood on the sheets when I came home from school. My first
    Evelynn: I feel like a lot of people don’t use specific terms be-     period lasted about nine days and was so heavy. It would get light
    cause there is stigma around it. My friends and I typically just      for a day and then kept coming. A friend told me to go to CVS to
    ask for a pad or tampon—that’s a clear sign. Or people will just      buy pads. And for some reason I thought the sticky side was sup-
    say, “I’m on my cycle” or talk about how their cycles are syncing.    posed to go up. So that happened. I started Googling everything
                                                                          about periods and was a lot more prepared the second month.
                                                                !         Evelynn: I had mine when I was 12. I was having really terrible
    What was it like to get your                                          stomach pains and my mom took me to several doctors around
    period for the first time?                                            Louisiana because we thought something was wrong with my
    Amber: I got my period for the first time in February of this         stomach. At some point I started having brown discharge. A
    year. I had just turned 12. We were at a basketball game at Dillard   week later, I was at school and bled through my khaki pants
    University and having a good time. I had to go to the bathroom        during first block. I put my sweater around my waist and had
    and I looked at my underwear and was like, “Oh my God.” I was         to go the whole day with dry blood in my pants. I told my mom
    so confused. I cleaned myself up and robotically walked back to       when I got home and she was excited.
    the bleachers and told my mom that I thought I had gotten my          Adler: My mom was very excited too. The second I got home
    period. I was wearing these really nice white pants and they were     from my Disney World trip she had all this stuff laid out and told
    totally stained. We went to CVS on the way home and got some          me about all the products.
    pads and my mom told me what to do. For the next few days, I          Kaitlyn: I didn’t know how to talk to my mom about this. I have
    was scared of myself. Why was myself doing this to myself? I was      always bought my own pads and tampons. We don’t talk about
    hungry, irritated, and mad at everyone for no reason. That was        this stuff very much.
    hard because I’m usually nice to everyone.                            Amber: When I first went to buy pads on my own, I was so

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Any thoughts on feminine products?
                                                                        Evelynn: The first time I wore a tampon, I put the whole thing
                                                                        in. I didn’t push the plastic tube. It was very uncomfortable, but
                                                                        I told myself it was fine and went swimming in a lake with the
                                                                        plastic inside of me. I never wanted to use a tampon ever again,
                                                                        but then I spoke with my mom and she explained to me that the
                                                                        plastic part is not supposed to go in, that you’re supposed to use
                                                                        it to push the tampon in.
                                                                        Adler: I didn’t use tampons for a long time, but now I’m like,
                                                                        ‘Why be afraid of a roll of cotton!?’ But it can hurt if you don’t
                                                                        put it in right.
                                                                        Evelynn: It’s a bit scary to use tampons because you don’t know
                                                                        exactly where you’re sticking it and how far it should go in. It’s
                                                                        helpful that there are so many options for different tampon and
                                                                        pad sizes, but it takes a while to figure out what’s right for you.
nervous. I begged my mom to buy them for me, but she wanted             Adler: If you want to use tampons, find a good starter tampon.
me to do it myself. I got a male cashier and didn’t make any eye        Something small. You’ll have to change it sooner, but it’ll be eas-
contact. And then I just cried on my way out the door. I don’t          ier to get comfortable.
know why.
                                                                        Kaitlyn: I typically use a tampon and a pad, and I’ve been want-
Kaitlyn: I stare the cashier in the eye when I buy tampons or           ing to try menstrual cups because I like that they are reusable.
pads. I hate the stigma. My friends will be like, “I need a tampon.
Slide it under the desk!” and I’ll just throw it to them in the mid-    Adler: My mom sends me period product trends and is about to
dle of class. There just shouldn’t be stigma around it.                 order me a ton of period panties [washable, reusable undies that
                                                                        absorb your period].
                                                                        Amber: Don’t get scented stuff. It’ll just irritate your skin.
How does your period affect you
and what helps you feel better?
                                                                        Any other words of wisdom for girls who
Evelynn: The week before, I’m just really frustrated at every-          are about to have their first period?
thing and everyone. And then the week of my period, it’s just
sadness. It’s terrible.                                                 Adler: Every experience is different. Don’t freak out if your first pe-
                                                                        riod seems different from what you’ve heard. It’s probably normal.
Adler: I turn into a witch. I always get a killer headache the day
before and then I’m just awful to everyone. I get very antisocial.      Evelynn: Make sure to tell someone who can help you!
Evelynn: My flow is really heavy and my period lasts a full seven       Adler: Buy stuff now so you’ll have supplies when it happens.
days. My friends have them for three days and then they are done.       And if you have friends who already have their period, talk to
                                                                        them!
Kaitlyn: I just wallow in my pain and try to lie down in differ-
ent positions. I still don’t really know what to do.                    Kaitlyn: Don’t be scared if your period is irregular, but also
                                                                        don’t forget to track your period. I have the Clue app. Most im-
Amber: I usually go into my room, lock the door, turn off all the
                                                                        portant of all, don’t be embarrassed!
lights, get a pillow and lie there facedown. Ginger tea does help
in my experience.                                                       Amber: Yes, love yourself! Even though this is happening, you
                                                                        should still continue being yourself.
Adler: Lying on my side and rubbing my stomach clockwise
helps me. And yes, liquids, liquids, liquids. Stay hydrated. Pho
is great. And I like taking baths. I get cold and hot flashes when
I’m on my period. If I’m feeling really hot, I’ll run a cold bath. If
I’m feeling really cold, I’ll run a hot bath.
Evelynn: Ibuprofen doesn’t really work for me. I typically end
up switching to Aleve. It’s really important to figure out what
helps with the pain. Heating pads can only do so much. The pain
just comes and goes. I have friends who take birth control to
alleviate the pain.
Adler: Exercise helps me with cramps. I know it works for a lot
of people. I also like martial arts to let all the emotions out so I
won’t yell at my mother or my cat.

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                                                      GEAUX GIRL! SUMMER 2019   15
THE SAVAGE MAKEOVER
                                        Your Personality
                                                                             By Dr. Sarah Fontenelle

                              The word “savage” means wild or uncontrollable. A Savage Makeover is unlike
                             any makeover you know; it’s got nothing to do with changing your bedroom,
                               makeup, or hair. A Savage Makeover is about your mood, thoughts, and feelings.
                                 You—and all other teenagers—will experience a Savage Makeover because of
                                   the changes your body and brain go through during the teenage years.
                                     Being an adolescent can be challenging and leave you feeling crazy at
                                       times. I am here to help you understand the “savagery” a bit better
                                       so you can take advantage of these years and emerge a better you.

                                              IN NEW ORLEANS, people love to wear masks. They allow us to
                                              transform ourselves into someone (or something) we are not—
                                              just put one on and see how even your physical posture changes to
                                              accommodate the character. The truth is that each one of us wears
                                              a symbolic mask every day, by way of our personality.
                                                 What is personality? In “simple” words, it is the essence of a
                                              person—one’s pattern of social, emotional, and behavioral ten-
                                              dencies—that emerges from and adapts to one’s interactions with
                                              the world. This means that your personality can change, although
                                              certain aspects often seem to stay the same—like how friendly or
                                              adventurous someone is. Personality is basically a constellation of
                                              habits. You probably change your habits every day (without realiz-
                                              ing it) based on who you’re with and what you’re doing. Think for a
                                              minute about how your principal sees you versus your best friend?
                                              What about your mother versus your neighbor? These people may
                                              see you differently because you’ve learned how to control certain
                                              aspects of yourself to accommodate the situation.
                                                 Adolescence is the perfect opportunity to try different person-
                                              alities, to experiment, and be intentional about the “mask” you
                                              wear. If you find you are not very open, maybe try being more
                                              spontaneous when given the opportunity to try something new.
                                              Or if you find you are more introverted and highly competitive,
                                              challenge yourself by joining a team that requires collaborative
                                              effort. Explore all of your personality potential!

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Activity

DESCRIBE YOUR OWN PERSONALITY BY SAYING “I AM                                        “ AND FILLING IN THE BLANK.

    For more insights into your personality (and extra fun!), get together with a friend and have each of you
   complete the “I am      ” statement five times (yes, write down five different things that are an important
       part of who you are!). Then each of you complete five “You are       ” statements about each other.
    Compare your perception of your own personality to that of your friend’s perception of your personality.
                  What are the similarities and differences? What would explain the differences?

                      Take this quiz to discover your
                        NOLA Summer Personality

      Circle T(RUE) or F(ALSE) for the following statements—whichever most accurately applies:

      1. I would rather follow my mother’s recipe for jambalaya than make up my own.                   T    F
      2. I tend to rush through my work and often make careless mistakes.                              T    F
      3. I like to be the center of attention.                                                         T    F
      4. I’m quick to forgive when someone has done something that hurts my feelings.                  T    F
      5. I’m afraid to speak up in class for fear of sounding dumb.                                    T    F
      6. In the summer I wear what keeps me cool versus worrying about the way I look.                 T    F
      7. I tend to forget to put things away when I’m finished using them.                             T    F
      8. I tend to get in trouble in class for talking to my friends.                                  T    F
      9. I always try to see the good in other people.                                                 T    F
      10. I often worry about what others think of me.                                                 T    F
      1 1 . I’d rather go to Voodoo Fest for the third day in a row than a one-time TED Talk.          T    F
      12. I tend to say things impulsively without thinking about the consequences.                    T    F
      13. I tend to say “hi” when I pass others on the street versus being aloof.                      T    F
      14. I believe you have to look out for others before yourself.                                   T    F
      15. I’m afraid to make mistakes.                                                                 T    F
      16. When sad, I prefer to do something fun versus think about what I’m feeling.                  T    F
      17. I often wait until the last minute to start a project.                                       T    F
      18. I would rather go to the mall with my friends than read a book.                              T    F
      19. I try to avoid arguments.                                                                    T    F
      20. I find it difficult to relax and have fun.                                                   T    F
      21. I’d prefer a sno-ball with my three favorite flavors mixed versus a flavor I’ve never had.    T    F
      22. I tend to be late when meeting friends or for scheduled activities.                           T    F
      23. I often say what I think even in front of people I don’t know well.                           T    F
      24. I would rather have fun versus win a game.                                                    T    F
      25. I get stressed out easily.                                                                    T    F

                                                                                                       GEAUX GIRL! SUMMER 2019   17
Put a 1 or 0 in the empty boxes for each item on the previous page!
 Scoring                                                      For each item you indicated as TRUE, put a 1 in the empty box.

   Key                                                        For each item you indicated as FALSE, put a 0 in the empty box.
                                                                          Add up the number of points for items of the same
                                                                           color and put the total in the appropriate box:

                                                                                   Pink (#s 1, 6, 11, 16, 21) =
                                                                                 Purple (#s 2, 7, 12, 17, 22) =
                                                                                 Yellow (#s 3, 8, 13, 18, 23) =
                                                                                   Blue (#s 4, 9, 14, 19, 24) =
                                                                                 Green (#s 5, 10, 15, 20, 25) =

                        0-1      “OPEN” = You tend to seek out new experiences and ideas and are very imaginative.
           Pink         2-3      “QUIRKY” = You are unpredictable and may have difficulty making decisions.
                        4-5      “COMFORT” = You like what is familiar and tend to stick with what you know works for you.

                        0-1      “DISCIPLINED” = You tend to be reliable and prompt because you plan ahead and are organized.
         Purple         2-3      “SELECTIVE” = You are strategic and methodical only about the things you’re excited about.
                        4-5      “SPONTANEOUS” = You tend to “fly by the seat of your pants,” or act on instinct in the moment.

                        0-1      “INTROVERT” = You tend to be self-driven and value your personal space and time.
         Yellow         2-3      “AMBIVERT” = You enjoy socializing when you don’t have more important things to do.
                        4-5      “EXTROVERT” = You are high-energy and prefer interacting with other people.

                        0-1      “COMPETITIVE” = You are competitive and may be perceived as distant and stoic.
           Blue         2-3      “ASSERTIVE” = You are generally agreeable but push back when it comes to strong beliefs.
                        4-5      “CHARMING” = You are concerned with harmony and cooperation and tend to exude warmth.

                        0-1      “OPTIMIST” = You tend to be calm and optimistic and undeterred by failure.
          Green         2-3      “REALIST” = You tend to see things as they are, for good or for bad.
                        4-5      “PESSIMIST” = You have perfectionist tendencies and tend to be too hard on yourself.

                  Fill in the five blanks with the words that best describe you from
                     each section to determine your NOLA Summer Personality:

__________________            __________________         __________________              __________________            __________________

                                   Dr. Sarah Fontenelle is a licensed developmental psychologist based in the Greater New
                                   Orleans area. She earned her doctorate in Experimental Psychology from Tulane University, where she
                                   studied the mechanisms that drive early human development. Dr. Fontenelle has since worked with
                                   many families, including parents and their teenaged children, to help them achieve school, work, and
                                   personal goals. She also makes time to pursue her passions, which include giggling with her 4-year-old
                                   twin daughters, singing in a band with her husband, and reading books about quantum physics.

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audrey
   ligier
    Meet Audrey
  Ligier, a rising
     high school
 sophomore at
    Morris Jeff
    Community
    School who
        became
Louisiana’s first
    transgender
     homecoming
      queen last
     November.

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“I was nervous that
                                                                                                                     people were going
                                Age: 15
                                                                                                                     to judge me because
                                                                                                                     I was the center of
                     Best advice ever received:
                                                                                                                     attention and walking
             Confidence is everything.                                                                               in front of everyone,”
                                                                                                                     Audrey recalled when
                             Personal motto:                                                                         thinking back to the
                                                                                                                     moments before the
Don’t be afraid to do what you want in life.                                                                         homecoming game.

           When did you realize that you feel female although you were born male?
           Ever since I was old enough to remember. When I was little, I wore dresses and told the kids in kindergarten that I
           was a girl. I wrote a letter to the tooth fairy once asking to be made into a girl.

           When did you come out?
           I came out as bisexual first. About a month later, in August 2017, I came out to my dad as trans. I was super nervous
           and didn’t want to do it in person so I just texted him. It was nerve-wracking. He texted me back “That’s cool” or
           something like that and we talked when he came home later.

           What has your process of transitioning from male to female been like?
           My dad got me a therapist to work out what I had going on in my head, and she referred me to an endocrinologist for
           puberty blocking medicine. That was a big step. Homecoming was the first time that I dressed in female clothing and
           wore makeup. It basically was my official coming out. I still went by my birth name, Dylan, though and used they/
           them pronouns. Once my doctor and I started talking about hormone replacement therapy (estrogen) and I started
           presenting as a female in clothing, I decided to start going by she.

           Why did you want to be homecoming queen?
           I went to a school masquerade ball and they had a queen. Truthfully, I really liked the idea of getting a tiara, so I ran
           for the queen of that dance. I didn’t win, but it broke the ice for me to try again. I found out about our school having
           its first homecoming dance and they were having a meeting for those interested in running. I told my dad I wanted
           to run. It wasn’t until the school talked about the implications of this being a media event that I realized this would
           be about more than just a crown, but a stand for the rights of myself and others like me.

           What did it mean to you to be voted homecoming queen by the student body?
           It was huge! I felt like I was supported for me being me, which is a lot when you’re in high school and you’re not like
           everyone else. I wasn’t popular so I didn’t expect the win. That’s what made it that much more special. The day I
                                             found out, I couldn’t even get out of the campus without everyone trying to hug and
                                             high-five me to show their support.

                                               Were there any negative reactions?
                                               There was a lot of press about this, from WDSU and WWL on TV to NOLA.com and
                                               even national press like Huffington Post. With that came a lot of bad comments, but my
                                               principal, Mrs. Margaret Leaf, warned me not to read the comments, so I didn’t read
                                               any… not even one. But my dad did. He said I was better off not reading them. There
                                               even were several death threats. Some classmates posted not so nice stuff on social me-
                                               dia and the student who was elected homecoming king didn’t want to escort me, but
                                               one thing I know is that you can’t let what others think stop you from being you.

                                               Her dad walked Audrey across the basketball court. “I could feel her shaking.
                                               I was nervous too. I think I cared even more about what others were thinking
                                               than she did,” he said. When everybody started cheering, they felt a huge sense
                                               of relief. “I almost cried with happiness,” remembered Audrey.

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Audrey had never worn makeup
              until homecoming and loved
               getting pampered by Emily
            Tatum, a movie makeup artist
           who volunteered her services
               to make Audrey feel extra
          beautiful and confident. (Hair by
                         Marcos Gonzales)

            How do you deal with intolerance and hate?
            You have to be strong and not let what others say get to you, because you are the only one who can let that negativity
            have power over you. And I know that I am not what those people say.

            It takes inner strength to live one’s authentic self, but we also need other people
            who support us. What does your support network look like?
            I surround myself with positivity. Everyone around me accepts me and is very supportive. All of my family is supportive,
            except for my mom. My parents are divorced and my father raises me so it’s not that much of an issue. Maybe one day
            she’ll realize I’m the same person she’s always loved and known. Until then, I get more than enough love and support.

            Is there anything you tell yourself or do when things are tough?
            I tell myself that I am strong and capable of doing anything I put my mind to.

            You are a role model for other young transgender people. What has been the
            response from the New Orleans LGBTQ community, especially from other gen-
            der non-conforming teens?
            I have had people come to me telling me that because of my courage it has helped them to come out or live their true selves.

            Any words of encouragement for someone who isn’t living their authentic self
            yet out of fear of being rejected?
            It’s really important that you not care what other people think. You are the only person to live with you 24/7 and your
            opinion is ALL that matters. You only live once, so live your true, authentic self.

Waiting for the limo at her school.
“I couldn’t wait for the dance,” Audrey said.

                                                                             “My friends were
                                                                            so excited for me,”
                                                                                Audrey told us.

                                                              Photos by © 2018 Scott
                                                               Saltzman / Barefoot
                                                                   Photography

                                                                                                                        GEAUX GIRL! SUMMER 2019   21
with Dr. La’Nasha Tanner & her team at LSU Health New Orleans School of Medicine

                 How do you know your period is coming?

       There are lots of signs that your period is going to show up in a few days. Skin breakouts are pretty common
       due to clogged pores, and you might experience breast tenderness. The hormonal changes also make it
       more difficult to get a good night’s sleep so you may notice that you’re feeling more tired and even a little
       bit sad. The most common sign is abdominal cramps; these usually come right before bleeding starts and
       last 2-3 days. Mood swings are a common sign to watch for at this time of the month as well. Be sure to get
       enough sleep, eat healthy, and try to exercise during your cycle to help relieve these symptoms.                    Stacey Holman, M.D.

                 Does sex hurt?

                           Having sex should not hurt. A healthy sexual relationship between people involves good communication
                           about what you like and don’t like. This is especially true when it’s your first time. You should talk about
                           anything that hurts or feels uncomfortable. You can also use a lubricant to prevent pain that comes
                           from genital dryness. When in doubt, talk with your partner to make having sex an enjoyable and
                           painless experience. And remember, there is absolutely no need to rush into having sex. Do not engage
Katherine Williams, M.D.
                           in sexual activity if you don’t feel ready!

                 Why do boys love pornography?

       Some boys like pornography—and so do some girls! Pornography allows us to see sexual acts
       that maybe we had only imagined before. Most of us have had imaginary sex scenes in our mind, and
       pornography is one way to see them come to life, without actually having to do them. Most boys have
       a higher sex drive than girls so they will imagine sex scenes, and potentially want to watch them, more
       often than a lot of girls. Girls may be less likely to talk about watching pornography, even if they do
       like to watch it. It is totally normal to either like to watch pornography or not! If you have a boyfriend
       who watches pornography, it may make you think that he wants to be with someone other than you.
       This very often is not the case—they are just turned on by watching some of their fantasies played out.
                                                                                                                          Nicole Freehill, M.D.

     Curious about something?
     You can email REALTALK@GEAUXGIRLMAGAZINE.ORG to submit your anonymous questions.

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Whatever your questions may be, Geaux Girl!’s very
                                                   own sex ed and girls’ health expert, Dr. La’Nasha
                                                   Tanner, and her team at LSU Health New Orleans
                                                   School of Medicine are here to answer them. Dr.
                                                   Tanner, a native New Orleanian and graduate of
                                                   Spelman College and Meharry Medical College who
                                                   completed her residency at LSU, can’t wait to
                                                   answer your questions so let’s get real!

         How do you kiss and what is French kissing?

Kissing is a form of showing affection between two people, which involves interlocking your lips with someone
else’s. French kissing is basically a more intimate form of kissing with your mouth open that includes using
your tongue. There really is no formula for how to kiss, but you and your partner will find a rhythm that is
enjoyable for you both. There will probably be some trial and error along the way. The important thing is that
you are learning how to experience this with someone you feel comfortable with!
                                                                                                                      Selamawit Whitfield, M.D.

         I’m worried that I don’t smell good. What do I do about body odor?

                            Body odor is the perceived smell your body gives off when bacteria that live on your skin are broken down
                            by sweat. The smell usually comes from your feet, groin, armpits, genitals, pubic hair and other hair. Body
                            odor is unique to each person and is influenced by diet, gender, health, and medication. Your unique smell
                            may even be pleasant to others. However, if you perceive your smell to be unpleasant, here are some ways
                            to prevent body odor: wash daily with warm water to reduce the bacteria on your skin; wear natural fibers
                            such as cotton or silk that allow sweat to evaporate; use deodorant and antiperspirant. In severe cases, Botox
       Jamie Sias, M.D.
                            injections or even surgery can be used to reduce the amount of sweat produced by sweat glands. You should
                            see your doctor if your body smells different than usual or if you are sweating more than usual.

         I have always hated having boobs. I started binding and I feel
         so much more confident, but my parents don’t really understand.
         They think I’m trying to look like a boy, but I’m not and they know I
         am not transgender. I just don’t like boobs. Am I weird?

First of all, you are not weird. If binding makes you feel more comfortable in your body, that is okay. Explaining that
to your parents may help them understand. There are many different reasons why girls, and women, may bind.
                                                                                                                         Ophelia Langhorne, M.D.
These include athletics, costuming, gender dysmorphia, cross-dressing, transgender identification, lactation
suppression, wound healing, aesthetics, concealing breast development, and even to help heal from surgery! Whatever your reason, as
long as it contributes to a more positive body image of yourself, it is okay. It is important to know that you can hurt yourself or deform
breast tissue with overly restrictive binding. To be safe, if you bind, make sure that you use a stretchy material and wear it as loosely as
needed to get the look you want. Lastly, don’t bind for more than eight hours at a time.

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By Brooke Naranjo

            A GYNECOLOGY (GYN) EXAM, also called a female exam, is a clinic visit that focuses on the female body—mainly
            the female reproductive organs (breast, vagina, cervix, uterus, fallopian tubes, and ovaries). Some pediatricians and
            primary care providers can perform these visits, but often girls prefer to go to an OB-GYN (obstetrician-gynecolo-
            gist). OB-GYNs are doctors who specialize in women’s health, pregnancy, and post pregnancy care.
               GYN exams will cover questions you may have regarding the female reproductive organs, female hormones, your men-
            strual cycle, menstrual pain, contraception, sexually transmitted infections (STIs), urinary tract infections, or your breasts.
               Every clinic and visit are different, but here is a general overview to help you navigate the world of stirrups, specu-
            lums, and pap smears.

            Making an Appointment
            1 When you call the clinic, let them know whether you are a new or returning patient.
            2 Provide a brief reason for your visit. You can give as much or as little information as you like, whatever makes you
            comfortable. Some examples: “I have cramps with my period.” “I need to get tested for STDs.” “I want to learn about
            my options for contraception.”
            3 You may need your insurance and contact information. Let them know if you have Medicaid or CHIP.
            4 Ask if there’s anything else you will need for your visit, such as medical records or a list of current medications.

            The Visit
            Again, this process can vary, but it typically consists of the following phases:
        1   CHECK-IN: This part will be completed by clerical staff. You will be provided with privacy guidelines explaining confi-
            dentiality, you will be asked to share your phone number and address, and your picture may be taken. Sharing your
            phone number is important. This is how your provider will contact you regarding lab results.
       2    TRIAGE: You will be greeted by the medical assistant or nurse to take your vital signs: weight, height, blood pressure,
            heart rate, and temperature. Most likely, you will be asked when the first day of your last menstrual cycle (period) was
            and will need to collect a urine sample. If you need to use the restroom while you’re in the waiting room, ask for a cup,
            just in case (so you don’t empty your bladder before they ask you for a urine sample five minutes later).
       3    AFTER YOUR TRIAGE IS COMPLETED, you will be escorted to an exam room, where you will be asked to share your medical
            history to assist the provider with your care. Medical history includes: medication, allergies, and medical, surgical,
            family and social histories.
       4    THE PROVIDER WILL COME IN to get detailed information about the reason for your visit. If you brought someone with
            you, they may be asked to step out briefly.
       5    DEPENDING ON THE REASON FOR YOUR VISIT, the provider may ask you to change into a gown for an exam. This could include
            a breast exam (although breast cancer is very rare in teens) as well as an exam of your inner and outer reproductive organs.

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The Two Ps: PELVIC and PAP
    A lot of fear is created around the pelvic exam and Pap test.
       Before you panic and cancel your appointment, we encourage you to take deep breaths and
    remember that everyone’s experience is different… and it’ll all be over before you know it!
       Not all adolescent gynecology visits require a pelvic exam or Pap test. A pelvic exam may
    be required if you’re experiencing pelvic pain or there are any other concerns about the
    health of your female organs. A pelvic exam allows the provider to look
    at the inner and outer reproductive organs. This is done by
    completing a visual exam, physical exam,
    and bimanual exam.

                             What to Expect from Your First Pelvic Exam

                                           1   You’ll be lying on your back with your feet in stirrups
                                               2    The outside of the vagina (vulva) is examined
3    Speculum (can be metal or plastic) is inserted into the vagina opening so the provider can look at the vaginal walls and cervix
                     4 Bimanual exam: two fingers are inserted into the vagina to feel the uterus and ovaries
                              (the provider will press down gently on your belly with the other hand)

     The other p word: a “Pap” is a test performed during a pelvic exam. Pap tests screen for cervical cancer. Some girls are told
    that they will need a Pap once they are sexually active. This is no longer the recommendation. A Pap test should be done at least
    yearly in all healthy females 21 years and older. Girls who have a weak immune system (such as girls who are HIV positive) may
                   require a Pap before 21 and more frequently. If you believe this applies to you, talk with your provider.

                                                   What to Expect from Your First Pap Test
                                                            After the speculum is in place…
                                 1   A soft brush is inserted into the vagina to collect cells from the cervix
                                               2   The brush is placed in solution and sent to a lab

    You might be a little uncomfortable during the exam, but none of this should hurt! Just breathe and try to relax.
              GYN visits may take up to 45 minutes to an hour, although the pelvic exam typically only lasts a few minutes.
                  It will depend on your provider, the type of exam, and whether you’re a new or returning patient.

              Brooke Naranjo is a family nurse practitioner and member of the REAL team at the LSU Health Sciences
              Center New Orleans. The mission of Reproductive Education + Advocacy Louisiana [REAL] is to improve adolescents’
              access and utilization of comprehensive, accessible, and youth-friendly sexual and reproductive healthcare services by
              enhancing knowledge, expanding training, and growing advocacy capacity of current and future healthcare providers.

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