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Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Help! I Have a                            PRACTICAL
                                          STRATE GIE S TO GE T
                                          YO U STARTE D O N

Picky Eater!                              THE PATH TO
                                          SUCCE SS

          Liz Engelsen, MSOT, OTRL
          Melissa Czinski, MOT, OTRL

        Building Bridges Therapy Center
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Objectives
1. Identify who is in the audience
   and what learning needs are
2. Summarize oral motor, sensory,
   and miscellaneous factors that
   affect feeding/eating
3. Provide strategies that include:
   ◦ Sensory Preparation
   ◦ Food Chaining
   ◦   Managing Food Jags
   ◦   Family Meals and Modeling
   ◦   Food Play
   ◦   Food Science
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Picky Eaters                             vs.          Problem Feeders
Decreased range but will eat at least 30 different     Severely restricted range; usually eat less than 20
foods                                                  different foods
Foods lost due to food jags are usually regained       Foods lost due to food jags are usually not regained
after 2 week break                                     after a break
Able to tolerate new foods on plate                    Cry or fall apart when new foods are presented

Eat at least 1 food from most food textures or         Refuse entire categories of food textures or
nutrition groups                                       nutrition groups
Frequently eat a different meal than the rest of the   Always eat a different meal than the rest of the
family but will still participate in family meals      family and usually do not participate in family
                                                       meals
Sometimes referred to as a "picky eater" by parents Persistently referred to as a "picky eater" by
at well-visit checkups                              parents across several well-visit checkups
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
FACTORS AFFECTING FEEDING
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Oral Motor
Tongue-moves food around the mouth, holds food on
gumline to chew (works with cheeks-both have to be
strong enough), ejects food from mouth, moves food to
be swallowed
Cheeks-hold food on the gumline to chew (works with
tongue-both have to be strong enough), help with
sucking/drinking, managing liquid in mouth
Jaw-Biting, chewing
Lips-retrieving food from utensils, drinking from
cup/straw, keeping food in mouth
(Throat)-swallow
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Sensory Processing
The 8 Sensory Systems:
1. Visual: sense of sight
2. Auditory: sense of hearing
3. Olfactory: sense of smell
4. Gustatory: sense of taste                     We make SENSE of the world by
5. Tactile: sense of touch                         integrating these systems!
6. Vestibular: sense of balance and spatial
   orientation for the purpose of coordinating
   motor movement
7. Proprioception: sense of one's body
   position in space
8. Interoception: sense of what is going on
   within one's body (ie. hunger/thirst,
   temperature, pain, emotion, etc.)
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Sensory Integration
An innate neurobiological process that
refers to the way we receive information
from our senses, organize it, and use it
to participate in daily activities
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
How does this affect feeding?
• ALL of the sensory systems are involved in the
  feeding and eating process
• Eating is one of the only human occupations that
  involves every sensory system
• If our senses are not functioning together
  properly, we may not be able to tolerate the
  feeding and eating process
• Dysregulation --> trigger fight or flight/stress
  response --> turns off appetite
• We need optimal sensory processing for the
  feeding and eating process
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
How does this affect feeding?
• ALL of the sensory systems are involved in the
  feeding and eating process
• Eating is one of the only human occupations that
  involves every sensory system
• If our senses are not functioning together
  properly, we may not be able to tolerate the
  feeding and eating process
• Dysregulation --> trigger fight or flight/stress
  response --> turns off appetite
• We need optimal sensory processing for the
  feeding and eating process
Help! I Have a Picky Eater! - STRATEGIES TO GET YOU STARTED ON THE PATH TO
Photo analysis – What is going on with
this boy's sensory systems?
Miscellaneous Factors
Postural strength and stability
 ◦ Seating-90-90-90
Hand-to-mouth coordination with finger foods
and utensils
Environmental factors:
 ◦ distractions (SCREENS)
 ◦ who is eating at the meal
 ◦ the setup of the room, table, etc.
 ◦ plates, cups, utensils used
Medical Needs
Emotional Factors (Stress, Trauma)
Nutritional Needs (allergies, sensitivities, etc)
STRATEGIES FOR THE HOME
Goal: achieve total body organization and
                                                                                            regulation prior to meal

          Sensory Preparation
       PROPRIOCEPTIVE SYSTEM                                   VESTIBULAR SYSTEM                                  TACTILE SYSTEM
•   Heavy work (i.e. pushing, pulling,              •   Slow, linear swinging                       •   Deep pressure (i.e. bear hugs, massage, make
    carrying, lifting) - tug of war, catch with a   •   Slow, rotary swinging                           a "sandwich" or "burrito" by wrapping
    heavy ball/bean bags, exercise)                 •   Rocking in a rocking chair                      child tightly in pillows/cushions, roll exercise
•   Chores (i.e. laundry, dishwasher, clean         •   Rocking in a hammock or lycra swing             ball over front/back of child as they lay, etc.)
    up room/toys, carry groceries, shovel           •   Roll over exercise ball on back or front    •   Weighted materials (i.e. blankets, lap pads,
    snow, etc.)                                     •   Invert head for downward dog and                vests, or heavy comforters, couch cushions,
•   Animal walks, wheelbarrow walks, stomping,          other yoga poses                                etc.)
    skipping, or hopping                            •   Peanut rock                                 •   Tactile play with play-doh, putty, slime,
•   Climbing activities (i.e. monkey bars,                                                              sensory bins (beans, rice, sand, etc.), shaving
    climbing structures, rock wall)                                                                     cream, etc. (as long as these are not aversive
•   Jumping activities (i.e. trampoline, jump                                                           to the child)
    rope, leap frog, hopskotch)
•   Yoga
Goal: create "chains" or "links" between foods already eaten and
                                             foods that are slightly different, thus, growing the food
                                             repertoire
Food Chaining
A child-friendly approach to expanding the food repertoire by
introducing new foods that are very similar to preferred foods
in appearance, taste, and/or texture one after the other

Easy to tailor to specific child's needs

Adds foods from start to finish

Especially great for: children who are very visual, children who
are rigid with specific brands or flavors of preferred foods, and
children who have limited play skills
Food Chaining Example

 From here, we can then try
 adding a thin layer of butter,
   toasting the bread more
 heavily, keeping a very small
 amount of crust on, etc. We
can also gradually progress to
  thin layers of nut butters,
jams/jellies or put two pieces
  of bread together to work
  towards a sandwich, etc.
Goal: decrease potential for lost foods; avoid
                                                   getting "stuck" on certain flavors, colors, or
                                                   textures; improve variability within food
                                                   repertoire
Managing Food Jags
                                              How can you prevent
           What is a "food jag"? this from happening?
           When a child gets "burnt out" on a
           food and stops eating it.                     1. Decrease the frequency of presenting
                                                         a food, even if it is a favorite and highly
                                                         requested
           How does a food jag                           2. Change the way you present the food
                                                         (color, shape, amount, prepare
           happen?                                       differently)
           When a child eats the same food               3. Buy a different variation of the food
           very frequently, they get sick of it!         (I.e. flavor)

                                        See the "Preventing Food Jags"
                                        handout for more information
                                         and tips to prevent food jags
Goal: connect over foods as a family,
                                         model positive food talk, encourage
                                         learning and exploration of novel

Family Meals and Modeling                foods

             •   Eating together
             •   When you care about mealtime and spend quality
                 time here, engagement in food goes up.
             •   Family style, serving each person (child)
             •   Learning Plate
                 • New foods
                 • Talk about them
                 • Smell them
                 • Taste them
                 • Everyone learns about the food at their comfort
                     level-there is NO pressure and NO suggesting a
                     child do "X"
A child's main occupation is PLAY                          Goal: utilize play to decrease
                                                                                           anxiety/fear associated with new
                                       Food play allows for learning                       foods and replace with fun while
                                                                                           moving up the Steps to Eating
          Food Play                    and creating positive experiences

                                                               Interacts With
                                                               • Child and adult pass or throw container with food inside
                                                                  back and forth
                                                               • Child uses a food chopper, cookie cutters, or knives to make
                                                                  novel shapes
Tolerates                                                      • Child uses preferred food (ex-veggie straw) to paint pictures
• Peek-a-boo                                                      with non-preferred (ex-applesauce or yogurt)
• Make food pieces "rain" into bowl
• Slide food back and forth across table, using sounds and
   noises to describe what is happening (i.e. pancake wheels
   go "vroom vroom")
Food Play
                                                     Touch – Hands
                                        • Squishing, smashing, breaking, etc.
                                        • Draw or write in purees with fingertip
                                        • Make silly faces on plate with
                                          different foods for each part

                Smell                              Touch – Body & Face
• Peek-a-boo opening container to let   • Hide and seek (i.e. down sleeve, down
  smell out                               shirt, etc.)
• Therapist and child make a fan with   • Wear as clothing or jewelry (i.e.
  hand and use to fan food smell          necklaces, hats, etc.)
  towards nose                          • Make silly faces (i.e. mustaches,
• Lean towards food to smell while        beards, eyebrows, etc.)
  blowing it across table
Food Play
         Touch – Lips & Mouth
• Use food as lipstick or chapstick
• Give kisses
• Use as toothbrush to brush teeth

                                                       Taste
                                      •   Hide and seek in mouth
                                      •   "Animal tongue" taste
                                      •   "Paint" tongue

                                                Chew & Swallow
                                      • Chew and spit
                                      • Animal chewing
                                      • Who can crunch faster, slower, etc.?
Goal: use the senses to learn about
                                                new foods prior to eating them, thus
                                                decreasing anxiety/fear

Food Science
                                                Attempt to make
Describe characteristics of food                connections between
  • Look (color, shape, size, what else it      foods.
                                                • What else is orange that
    looks like, etc)                               we ate today?
  • Feel (wet/dry, soft/hard, cold/hot,         • What else was bumpy?
                                                • I'm thinking of a food
    smooth/bumpy, rough/sticky)                    you always eat that's
  • Smell (small, medium, large, sweet,            also shaped like a
                                                   circle...
    sour, salty, spicy, bitter, bready)
  • Taste (small, medium, large, sweet, sour,
    salty, spicy, bitter, bready)
  • Sounds (loud, quiet, crunchy, squeaky)
Your child is rapidly   Limited food selection is
                  losing foods they used     impacting your child's
                           to eat           nutrition/health/weight

 When to Talk                                 You are constantly
to Your Doctor   Mealtimes are incredibly
                                             worrying about your
About Feeding           stressful
    Therapy                                   child's food intake

                                            Your child eats less than
                  None of the strategies
                                                20-30 foods or
                   you have tried are
                                               no/limited fruits,
                        helping
                                            vegetables, or proteins
Questions?
Contact:
Building Bridges Therapy Center
www.bridgestherapy.com
734-454-0866
Office@bridgestherapy.com
References
             Beckman, D.A. (1988/2012) Oral motor interventions.
             Beckmanoralmotor.com.
             Fraker, C. et al (2007). Food chaining: The proven 6-step
             plan to stop picky eating, solve feeding problems, and
             expand your child's diet. De Capo Press.
             Toomey, et. al. (1990/2018). SOS: When children won't
             eat, picky eaters vs. problem feeders, assessment and
             treatment using the SOS approach to feeding. (utilized
             multiple talking points from therapist training and
             handouts)
INTENSIVE FEEDING PROGRAM
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      WHEN FOOD IS A CONSTANT
      WORRY…. Let us help.
             If your daily life                                 ONE HOUR SESSIONS
             is impacted                                           4 DAYS/WEEK
             because your child:
                                                                   For 3 WEEKS
             Only eats the same five foods
             Makes eating together                                    Our occupational
             as a family nearly impossible                             therapists have
             Is not gaining weight                                     specific training
                                                                     to use techniques*
             Requires a separate meal                               designed to help your
                                                                     child feel safe while
             Creates chaotic and stressful                             exploring food.
             meals for the entire family
                                                               Our intensive, customized
                                                                 program is focused,
    Building Bridges offers a specialized                         engaging, and fun!
          feeding program to help.
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            - Robin M.
            (Jake’s Mom)
                                        *Therapists use the Toomey SOS & Beckman Oral Motor approach
                                                           We participate with most insurance carriers.
                                              Questions/Scheduling: Contact office@bridgestherapy.com
FAMILY MEALS

The goal of Family Meals is for your Child to eat a volume of their preferred foods.
However, a secondary goal is for your Child to be learning about other, non-preferred or
new foods as well. Therefore, at EVERY meal AND snack, your Child should be offered at
least one protein, one starch and one fruit/vegetable. At least one of these foods must be
a preferred food. Do NOT restrict access to preferred foods until your therapist indicates
that your Child has enough feeding skills for you to do so.

STEP 1 = give Child a verbal warning, “we will be eating in 5 minutes”.
STEP 2 = if instructed by your therapist, have your Child engage in a Postural
           Activation Exercise (see handout) or other Sensory Preparation
           exercise
STEP 3 = get your Child and say “it is time to WASH HANDS now” (not “it is
               time to eat”)
STEP 4 = bring Child to sink to wash hands (change the soap, washcloth or
          sponge and water temperature etc. every other day for Sensory Preparation)
STEP 5 = bring to the Table and have sit into chair (can have one preferred food
          already out on the table if needed to entice Child into their seat)
STEP 6 = begin Family Style serving (each person passes each food and takes a
          small amount to put on their plate or the “Learning Plate”; Rule of Thumb
          re: serving size = 1 tablespoon per year of age)
STEP 7 = everyone eats, allowing your Child to self-feed for at least the first
          10 minutes of the meal. Adults are to talk about the food and use
          over-exaggerated oral-motor movements to “show and tell” the
          Child about how to make the food work in the mouth.
STEP 8 = after at least 10-20 minutes, begin any special feeding programs or
          adult feeding of your Child that has been recommended by your
          therapist.
STEP 9 = when Child appears to be done eating, offer a drink in a cup (can
          offer after the ½ way point in the meal if needs a drink sooner). Can try to
          re-offer a food after the drink, if Child appears to not have eaten
          enough at the meal. Do this in a playful manner; don’t push.
STEP 10 = when done eating and drinking, begin a “Clean Up” routine =
          Child blows or throws 1 piece of each food offered at that meal
          into the trash or a scraps bowl, then washes hands and/or table
          BEFORE getting down from the table.
If Child tries to get down too early, remind him/her “we haven’t done Clean Up yet. It’s not time to
get down”, and then offer another food. Don’t forget to use your “Key Phrases”

                                                                                     Copyright 2008/2010
                                                                                    Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.
MANAGEMENT OF FOOD JAGS

What are Food Jags? Some children, especially those with feeding difficulties, prefer to eat the
same food prepared the same way every day or at every meal. This is known as a “Food Jag”. The main
problem with food jags is that children will eventually get bored or burned out on these preferred foods.
Once children with feeding difficulties shun the preferred foods they’ve been jagging on, these foods are
typically lost out of that child’s food range - permanently. They may then continue this process of
eliminating foods until they have very few foods left in their food repertoire.

Preventing Food Jags: These are the ways to prevent food jags and the loss of foods:
1. Offer any one particular food ONLY every OTHER day (i.e. NOT every day)

2. If the child does not have a wide enough food range to eat 3 different foods at each of 5 meals
        across the course of 2 days, then you must change at least one sensory property within the
        preferred food EVERY time you serve that food; shape, color, taste, texture, temperature. Below
        are some ideas about how to change the sensory properties (do each type of change for 2 weeks
        before moving onto the other type of change – in order as listed below):
 Changing Shape: cut the food into different forms than it is usually presented.
         Using cookie cutters is an excellent and fun way to do this.
 Changing Color: add food coloring to the favorite foods
 Changing Taste: add a new flavoring to the food, such as using spices (dill, lemon, garlic, salt,
        tarragon) or extra butter, flavored Pam, or parmesan cheese. Add flavored syrups or jellies,
        soy sauce, tomato sauce, Jello powders, gravy or dried soup powders
 Changing Texture: add a thickening agent such as corn starch, Thick-It; add an extra egg to
        cooking; add extra oil to cooking mixtures; cook the food into a different texture (e.g. making an
        omelet vs. fried eggs)

An Example: Johnny likes pancakes and wants to eat them every morning (and only them) for
breakfast. If Johnny refuses all other foods and falls apart without his pancakes, his Mother would offer
them BUT she would change something about them each day as follows:
Week 1 - change the shape (have Johnny cut his pancakes with cookie cutters that are different every
        day until he will allow the pancake to be presented by Mom already cut into a different shape)
Week 2 - change the color each day (have Johnny help cook the pancakes and add a food
        coloring. If he doesn’t understand that food coloring doesn’t change taste, you may
        have to have his experiment with changing the color of water with food coloring and
        tasting that there is no flavor change)
Week 3 - change the taste and the texture slightly by adding an extra egg one day, and extra
        oil the next (alternating days until both are tolerated well)
Week 4 - change the flavor of the pancakes clearly by adding flavored syrups or different jelly
        on different days
Week 5 - change the taste and texture by adding real pieces of fruit to the pancakes

The Just Noticeable Difference: At first, a child may be quite resistant to any type of change in
their preferred food. They may notice even very small differences in any of the food properties. The
goal is for you to change the food enough that a Just Noticeable Difference is noted by the child. This
Just Noticeable Difference should NOT be so large that your child has a meltdown and refuses to eat.
The size of the Just Noticeable Difference that can be tolerated is different for every child. You will need
to experiment to find what your child can tolerate by first changing a property of the food in a small way
(in the order listed above). Your child should act like they noticed, BUT ARE OKAY, with the change. If
they fall apart, you made too big of a change and you need to back down and change the food less next.

                                                                                     Copyright, 2002/2010
                                                                                     Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.
Food Science Tracking Sheet

Food / Date       Sight             Touch               Smell                  Taste                  Sound               Rating
                  Color:            Wet / Dry           Small / Med. / Lrg.    Small / Med. / Lrg.    Loud / Quiet /      Score:
                  _______________   Soft / Hard         Sweet / Sour / Salty   Sweet / Sour / Salty   No sound            ______/ 10
                  Shape:            Cold / Hot / Warm   / Spicy / Bitter /     / Spicy / Bitter /
                  _______________   / Room Temp         Bready                 Bready                 Crunchy / Squeaky
                                    Smooth / Bumpy /    Smells Like:           Tastes Like:
                  Shiny / Matte     Slimy / Sticky      _______________        _______________
                  Color:            Wet / Dry           Small / Med. / Lrg.    Small / Med. / Lrg.    Loud / Quiet /      Score:
                  _______________   Soft / Hard         Sweet / Sour / Salty   Sweet / Sour / Salty   No sound            ______/ 10
                  Shape:            Cold / Hot / Warm   / Spicy / Bitter /     / Spicy / Bitter /
                  _______________   / Room Temp         Bready                 Bready                 Crunchy / Squeaky
                                    Smooth / Bumpy      Smells Like:           Tastes Like:
                  Shiny / Matte     Slimy / Sticky      _______________        _______________
                  Color:            Wet / Dry           Small / Med. / Lrg.    Small / Med. / Lrg.    Loud / Quiet /      Score:
                  _______________   Soft / Hard         Sweet / Sour / Salty   Sweet / Sour / Salty   No sound            ______/ 10
                  Shape:            Cold / Hot / Warm   / Spicy / Bitter /     / Spicy / Bitter /
                  _______________   / Room Temp         Bready                 Bready                 Crunchy / Squeaky
                                    Smooth / Bumpy      Smells Like:           Tastes Like:
                  Shiny / Matte     Slimy / Sticky      _______________        _______________
                  Color:            Wet / Dry           Small / Med. / Lrg.    Small / Med. / Lrg.    Loud / Quiet /      Score:
                  _______________   Soft / Hard         Sweet / Sour / Salty   Sweet / Sour / Salty   No sound            ______/ 10
                  Shape:            Cold / Hot / Warm   / Spicy / Bitter /     / Spicy / Bitter /
                  _______________   / Room Temp         Bready                 Bready                 Crunchy / Squeaky
                                    Smooth / Bumpy      Smells Like:           Tastes Like:
                  Shiny / Matte     Slimy / Sticky      _______________        _______________
                  Color:            Wet / Dry           Small / Med. / Lrg.    Small / Med. / Lrg.    Loud / Quiet /      Score:
                  _______________   Soft / Hard         Sweet / Sour / Salty   Sweet / Sour / Salty   No sound            ______/ 10
                  Shape:            Cold / Hot / Warm   / Spicy / Bitter /     / Spicy / Bitter /
                  _______________   / Room Temp         Bready                 Bready                 Crunchy / Squeaky
                                    Smooth / Bumpy      Smells Like:           Tastes Like:
                  Shiny / Matte     Slimy / Sticky      _______________        _______________
                  Color:            Wet / Dry           Small / Med. / Lrg.    Small / Med. / Lrg.    Loud / Quiet /      Score:
                  _______________   Soft / Hard         Sweet / Sour / Salty   Sweet / Sour / Salty   No sound            ______/ 10
                  Shape:            Cold / Hot / Warm   / Spicy / Bitter /     / Spicy / Bitter /
                  _______________   / Room Temp         Bready                 Bready                 Crunchy / Squeaky
                                    Smooth / Bumpy      Smells Like:           Tastes Like:
                  Shiny / Matte     Slimy / Sticky      _______________        _______________

                    Adapted from Dr. Kay Toomey’s Sequential Oral Sensory (SOS) Approach to Feeding Food Science Tracking Sheet
KEY PHRASES FOR CREATING A POSITIVE FEEDING EXPERIENCE

       How we talk to our children during meals is very critical. The words we use need to be
       teaching words, meant to help our children learn what it is that they need to be doing
       specifically at meals. OUR GOAL = to advance a child up the "Steps To Eating"
       without using ... Questions, or Negative Instructions, Demands or Commands

“YOU CAN” Replace as many of your questions with “YOU CAN” vs “can you?”
1 - the “you can” phrase implies confidence that our child can do the task being shown
         them; it avoids the interruption of asking a question because it is a statement
         instead; it avoids the power struggle you set yourself up for by asking a question
2 - if they reply with “no, I can’t”, you can just say “when you are ready, I believe you
         can!” And avoid that power struggle all together
3 - talk about others CAN too = “Joey can (describe action)”, “We can. (describe action)”
4 - ask ONLY choice questions (“do you want A or B”) and ONLY when the child is
         NOT already eating
5 - REMEMBER - if “no” is not an acceptable answer, don’t ask it as a question!

QUESTIONS: need to be avoided because...
- they interrupt children eating who know they are expected to answer our questions to them,
        even if they chose not to respond. We never want to interrupt a child eating !
- they set us up to power struggle with our children. What do you do when they answer with a
        “no”? If you let the “no” stand, they don’t eat. If you disregard the “no” and push them,
        not only are you going to power struggle, but you are also invalidating the opinion YOU
        JUST ASKED FOR with your question.
- “Can You....?” is the most frequent question parents use. This question, in particular, implies a
        lack of confidence on our part as to whether our child really can do this eating task. That
        lack of confidence is imparted to our child with this question.

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NEUTRAL OR POSITIVE EDUCATIONAL LANGUAGE: use language that is
    focused on teaching your child about the sensory properties of the food
    and the mechanics of how the food breaks apart/moves AND how this food
    is similar to a known food

1 - give the food a name and describe what it looks like (color, shape, size, texture)
2 - “Teach the Physics of Food” = explore the food with your hands and eyes. Can
        you bang it on the table, or is it wiggly? Does it crush into powder, or squish into
        mush? Does it feel bumpy, or smooth? Does powder stick to your fingers, or is it
        sticky? All of these different types of foods are going to work differently once the
        food gets into the mouth. We want your children to understand as much about
        the food as possible, and what is going to happen to the food once it gets into the
        mouth, BEFORE it gets in your child’s mouth.

                                                                              Copyright, 2002/2010
                                                                              Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.
                                                                             toomey@starcenter.us
3 - If it is too threatening to talk about the child’s food, talk about your own food and
          eating. Manipulate your own food with your hands and mouth. Teaching your
          child to eat is a SHOW AND TELL exercise. Remember, you are the Professor
          and every meal/snack is a classroom/teaching opportunity.
4 - If your child is struggling with a food (sensory or oral-motor wise), show them and tell
          them in explicit detail how to alternatively manage that food (e.g. “You look
          worried about that food. If it is making you worried, you can move it up here; you
          can cover it up”), (e.g. “Take a bite of that licorice from the side here with your
          strong back teeth. Hold it down tight in your teeth and then bite and pull”), (e.g.
          “See how I can take a bite of my chip and move my tongue sideways to put it on
          my big boy molars and now I can chew, chew, chew and then swallow it to my
          tummy”).

NEGATIVE DEMANDS OR COMMANDS: need to be avoided because...
- a “do this or else” statement does little to create a postive mealtime atmosphere
- demanding a child do something in a negative fashion or tone of voice, often upsets them
- remember, your child’s negative emotions are connected to the Adrenaline neurotransmitter
        system, which in turn directly suppresses appetite.

We never want to do anything at a meal that is going to directly suppress appetite!

- our demands and commands often times set us apart from our children at meals as the
        authority figure rather than helping them feel like we are joining them in tackling this
        difficult task. They also may give our children a sense that we feel they are stupid or
        silly (e.g. ”take a bite already!”), or they may make our children feel as if we have no
        understanding of just how difficult a task eating is for them (e.g. “stop playing with your
        food and just eat it!”).

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“DO” LANGUAGE vs. Don’t Language: use language that is rule based and helps
     your child understand the exact, correct behavior you expect. “Do
     language” tells the child the rule, rather than saying “stop”, “don’t”, “no”.
     It also then gives the appropriate behavior in specific terms.

1 - instead of “stop throwing” say, “food stays on the table. If you don’t want it, put it up
        here” Or, “push it away”
2 - instead of “sit down!” say, “chairs are for sitting, not standing. We sit on our
        bottoms in the chair”.
3 - instead of “stop screaming” say, “we need to use an inside voice here. If something
        is upsetting you, you can use your words in an inside voice”
4 - instead of “don’t spill that drink” say, “cups are for drinking. If you are going to spill,
        the cup will go over here until you are ready to actually take a drink”

NEGATIVE INSTRUCTIONS: need to be avoided because...
     - they interrupt eating, they set you up for power struggles and they do not teach children WHAT
        TO DO. Negative instructions typically only teach children what NOT to do, WITHOUT
        providing a more appropriate alternative (eg. “stop screaming”; “don’t throw”, “stop that”, “don’t
        spill that drink”).
     - negative instructions usually deal with a maladaptive behavior after it has occurred and do not
         help to “set up” our children to be successful from the start.
                                                                                     Copyright, 2002/2010
                                                                                     Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.
                                                                                    toomey@starcenter.us
EATING
                                                                                               chews and swallows whole bolus independently
                                                                                               chews, swallows whole bolus with drink
                                                                                               chews, swallows some and spits some
                                                                                               bites, chews “x” times & spits out
                                                                                               bites pieces, holds in mouth for “x” seconds & spits out
                                                                                               bites off piece & spits out immediately
                                                                                               full tongue lick
                                                                                               licks lips or teeth

STEPS TO EATING                                                                            TASTE
                                                                             tip of tongue, top of tongue
                                                                             teeth
                                                                             lips
                                                                             nose, underneath nose
                                                                             chin, cheek
                                                                             top of head
                                                                             chest, neck
                                                                             arm, shoulder
                                                                             whole hand
                                                                             fingertips, fingerpads
                                                                             one finger tip
                                                                          TOUCH
                                                             leans down or picks up to smell
                                                             odor in child’s forward space
                                                             odor at table
                                                             odor in room
                                                          SMELLS
                                    uses utensils or container to serve self onto own plate/space
                                    uses utensils or a container to stir or pour food/drink outside of own space
                                    uses utensils or a container to stir or pour food/drink for others
                                    assists in preparation/set up with food
                                 INTERACTS WITH
   looks at food when directly in child’s space
   being at the table with the food just outside of child’s space
   being at the table with the food ½ way across the table
   being at the table with the food on the other side of the table
   being in the same room
TOLERATES
                                                                                                                                Copyright, 1995/2010   Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.
Copyright, 1995/2010   Kay A. Toomey, Ph.D.
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