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October 4, 2019 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement 1
Special Supplement
Weddings
E Marriages
A wedding begins a lifetime
of memories that fill a marriage
2 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement October 4, 2019
Engaged Couples Retreats help prepare for life after the wedding
Christie McCullough
S
cientific studies are beginning to
show what the Catholic Church
has known all along: premarital
counseling can help prevent divorce.
“In order to have a successful mar-
riage, you have to prepare for it,” said
Deacon Tom Samoray, director of Fam-
ily Life and Marriage for the Diocese
of Nashville. His office organizes the
Engaged Couples Retreats held for
couples preparing for marriage.
The issues and tools presented in the
Engaged Couples Retreat are issues
and tools that are relevant at every
stage of marriage, he said.
“Communication is key. We go
through different talks that mainly help
couples learn how to communicate,”
Deacon Samoray said. “Even couples
who have been married for a long pe-
riod of time have to work on their com-
munication. So, that comes early on in
the retreat. …
“All of the other talks, finance, spiri-
tuality, intimacy all include the impor- Bishop J. Mark Spalding meets with couples preparing for their upcoming marriages at the diocesan Engaged
tance of communication,” he added. “So Couples Retreat. The diocese hosts nine of the one-day retreats throughout the year. During the day, the couples
often we find that couples go into small discuss a variety of topics, including finance, spirituality and intimacy, but the biggest issue is learning how to
groups and they haven’t communicated communicate, said Deacon Tom Samoray, director of Family Life and Marriage for the Diocese of Nashville.
about things such as student loans. So,
the couples comes in and goes, ‘Oh, gious counterparts. Samoray said. can continue their ongoing faith forma-
and I forgot to tell you The study further demonstrated that “Ideally,” he said, “the Engaged tion as a couple.”
that I have $100,000 the more active a couple was in their Couples Retreat is just the beginning For more information on the Engaged
in student loans.’ This parish community, the more their of the couple preparing for marriage. Couples Retreat and upcoming retreats,
may come up on the chances of divorce decreased. In situa- In addition to pre-Cana, the couples visit https://www.dioceseofnashville.
retreat. It’s just some- tions where Catholic couples were ac- should find a home parish where they com/getting-married.
thing that they never tively involved with parish life beyond
thought to discuss weekly Mass attendance, statistics
before. showed that the couple was 31 percent
“Or children. They less likely to divorce than their non-
haven’t really talked
Deacon
religious counterparts.
Having an appreciation of the sanc- Make your day
Extraordinary
about how many or
when,” Deacon Samo- Samoray tity of marriage isn’t enough, Deacon
ray said. “But, in the retreat, they’re in Samoray said. Catholic couples must
small groups with peers and they feel understand the significance of mar-
comfortable talking about these things riage as a sacrament and a vocation.
as a couple. ... It helps lessen some of “As we see it from a Catholic perspec-
the anxiety about marriage.”
“A robust experience of marriage
tive, we understand marriage as a sac-
rament – the sacrament of matrimony,
with floral
creations from
preparation can have a significant posi- which imparts graces in the way that all
tive effect upon those who marry, by sacraments do. … It is also a vocation,”
helping them weigh their decision to Deacon Samoray said. “It’s a call to
Brown’s
marry more seriously and consider holiness. Just as a call to the priesthood
more thoughtfully the various dynam- or religious life, we want to make sure
ics of married life,” said Erin Stracener, that couples understand that they are
director of the Tribunal for the Diocese entering their vocation.
of Nashville, which handles requests “One of the ways we get called to holi-
Florist
for annulments. “Too often couples be- ness is through our vocation,” he said.
come so preoccupied with the practical “Your vocation is to get each other to
details of wedding preparation that they heaven. To help that person be the best
fail to prepare themselves adequately person they can be and to help them
for married life itself. get to heaven. There again, that’s an
“If couples more fervently prepared awesome responsibility. And it takes EST. 1968
for marriage and entered married life some preparation to do that.”
with a deeper and more realistic knowl- In addition to the Engaged Couples
edge of the commitments and sacrifices Retreat that the diocese offers nine
involved, we would likely see fewer months out of the year, Father Jayd
divorces and, therefore, fewer petitions Neely, pastor of St. Mary’s of the
for a declaration of nullity,” she added.
An April 2019 article in Catholic
Seven Sorrows Church in downtown
Nashville, offers a weekend retreat EXPERTS
World Report backs Samoray’s and Stra- called Three to Get Married. “They
cener’s emphatic support of premarital don’t offer the retreat that often. But, IN THE
preparation, including the importance if couples have the ability to set aside
of communication. The article cites a
recent study that showed that in states
an entire weekend, it’s a wonderful op-
portunity for them to dedicate the time
ART OF
where premarital counseling was man-
datory, the divorce rates are about 1.5
to preparing for their marriage and not
just their wedding,” Deacon Samoray EXPRESSION
percent lower than in states where pre- said.
marital counseling isn’t required. While the Diocesan Engaged Couples
When faith is an influencing factor,
the numbers drop even more. A 2016
retreat and Three to Get Married are
both preparatory tools, they work in www.brownsflorist.net | 615.824.0857
Pew report showed that even “nominal” conjunction with the preparation pro-
Catholics had a 5 percent less chance
of getting divorced than their non-reli-
vided by the deacon or priest who will
preside at a couple’s wedding, Deacon
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October 4, 2019 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement 3
Wedding & Marriage Announcements
ENGAGEMENTS ANNIVERSARIES Ashburn 50th anniversary Victory 50th anniversary
Joseph and Marlene Gawlowski Ash- John and Theresa Victory celebrated
Askland-Krauss Burns 10th anniversary burn will celebrate the 50th anniversary their 50th wedding anniversary on
of their wedding on Oct. 18, 2019. They Sept. 27, 2019. They were married at
Vannessa Maria Askland and John Jason and Aubrey Burns celebrated were married at St. Basil the Great the Cathedral of Our Lady of Perpetual
Sebastian Krauss will be married on their 10th wedding anniversary on Church in East Pointe, Michigan. The Help in Rapid City, South Dakota. The
July 11, 2020, at the Copper Ridge June 20, 2019. They were married in couple has two children, David Ashburn couple has two children, Christopher
Venue in Murfreesboro, Tennessee. Nashville. The have one child, Gary. and Rebecca Limones, and five grand- and Matthew Victory, and four grand-
The bride is the daughter of Esmer- Mr. Burns is a legal assistant and Mrs. children. Mr. Ashburn works for NAPA. children. They are both retired.
alda Guadalupe Askland. She works Burns is a paralegal. The couple resides Mrs. Ashburn is retired. The couple
as a high school Spanish teacher. The in Nashville. resides in Cookeville, Tennessee. McKeegan 55th anniversary
groom is the son of Teresa Krauss.
He works in law enforcement. The Calzavara 25th anniversary Brancheau 50th anniversary Paul and Mary Ann McKeegan cele-
couple will reside in Murfreesboro. brated their 55th wedding anniversary
Deacon John and Jacqueline Calzavara Deacon Paul and Laura Brancheau on June 20, 2019. They were married
WEDDINGS will celebrate their 25th wedding an-
niversary on Oct. 22, 2019. The couple
celebrated the 50th anniversary of their
wedding on Sept. 6, 2019. They were
at Our Lady of the Lake Church in
Edinboro, Pennsylvania. The couple
were married in Orange, California. married at St. Michael Catholic Church has three children, Shawn, Brian and
Clippard-Scaglione The couple has one child, Adriana. in Livonia, Michigan. The couple has Keith, and four grandchildren. Mr.
He serves as a deacon at Holy Family three children, Jennifer Frey, Rebecca McKeegan is a retired university pro-
Elizabeth Ann Clippard and Patrick Church in Brentwood and is a profes- Griffin, Christopher Brancheau, and
James Scaglione were married on fessor, and Mrs. McKeegan is a retired
sional musician. She is the manager of five grandchildren. Deacon Brancheau elementary school teacher.
March 2, 2019, at the Church of client experience at Ingram Content serves at St. Philip Church in Franklin
the Assumption in Nashville. The
bride is the daughter of Richard and
Group. and is an Uber driver. Mrs. Brancheau Moynahan 60th anniversary
is an independent college consultant.
Norma Clippard. She works as the Spehr 25th anniversary The couple resides in Franklin.
staff counsel at Asurion. The groom John D. and Virginia Moynahan will
is the son of Rich and Ginny Sca- celebrate the 60th anniversary of their
glione. He works as a Solution Ex-
William and Tricia Spehr will celebrate Schafer 50th anniversary wedding on Oct. 10, 2019. They were
the 25th anniversary of their wedding married at St. Eugene Catholic Church
ecutive at Healthstream. The couple on Oct. 8, 2019. They were married at Roger and Bernadette Schafer cel-
resides in Nashville. in Chicago. The couple has four chil-
St. Thomas More Catholic Church in ebrated their 50th wedding anniversary dren, Laura Moynahan, Mark Moyna-
Darien, Connecticut. They have three on April 12, 2019. They were married han, Tricia Spehr, and Kate Moynahan,
Farone-Hurtado children, W. Tyler Spehr, Grace V. at Sacred Heart Church in Lawrence- and three grandchildren. They are
Spehr and Henry Allen Spehr II. Mr. burg, Tennessee. The couple has three retired and reside in Brentwood.
Mary Grace Farone and Jorge Igna- Spehr is president of sales for Express children: Daniel, Brian and Karen, and
cio Hurtado were married on Aug. Scripts, and Mrs. Spehr is retired. The seven grandchildren. They are retired. Continued on next page
11, 2018, at St. Rose of Lima Church couple resides in Brentwood.
in Murfreesboro. The bride is the Singer 50th anniversary
daughter of Anthony and Mary Thomas 30th anniversary
Farone. She works as a registered Charles and Virginia Singer will cel-
dietitian at Vanderbilt Medical Cen- Joni and Karl Thomas will celebrate ebrate the 50th anniversary of their
ter. The groom is the son of Gabri- their 30th wedding anniversary on Dec. wedding on Nov. 22, 2019. They were
ela Perez and Miguel Hurtado. He 16, 2019. They were married at Holy married in Nashville. The couple has
works as a registered nurse at Saint Name Church in Louisville, Kentucky. two children, Charles Alan Singer and
Thomas Midtown Hospital. The The couple has two children, Kala and Carrie Elise Singer, and two grandchil-
couple resides in Nashville. Jordan, and two grandchildren. Mr. dren. Mr. Singer works for Nashville
Thomas is a retired U.S. Army officer. Gas, and Mrs. Singer works for St. Pius
Crowder-Hobson X Church and Classical Academy.
Hollmann 50th anniversary
Trevor Lanese Crowder and Carl L.
Hobson were married on Sept. 19, Joe and Clara Hollmann celebrated the
2019, at St. Vincent de Paul Church in 50th anniversary of their wedding on
Nashville. The bride is the daughter Aug. 29, 2019. They were married at Sa-
of the late Littleton and Sadie Crowder cred Heart Church in Loretto, Tennes-
Wade. She works as a public health di- see. The couple has five children, Tara,
rector. The groom is the son of the late Timothy, Jessica, Mark and Laura, and
Ronald and Charlene Hobson. He is re- 14 grandchildren. Mr. and Mrs. Hol-
tired. The couple resides in Nashville. lmann are retired and reside in Loretto.
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4 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement October 4, 2019
Burns-Gray Kleman-Macuil Tipton-Krispin Campbell-Zell
Emily Renee Burns and Arthur Whitsitt Susan Kleman and Edgar Macuil will Isabel Tipton and Isaac Krispin will Taylor Campbell and Paterick Zell will
“Whit” Gray will be married on Oct. 5, be married on Oct. 19, 2019, at Holy be married on Nov. 2, 2019, at St. Ann be married on Oct. 5, 2019, at Our Lady
2019, at the Cathedral of the Incarnation Family Church in Brentwood. The Church in Nashville. The bride is the of the Lake Church in Hendersonville.
in Nashville. The bride is the daughter bride is the daughter of Christopher daughter of Curtis and Rosalina Tipton The bride is the daughter of Dana and
of James and Jill Burns. She works as and Laura Kleman and works as a qual- and works as a project manager and in Charlie Campbell and works as a pre-
a speech pathologist. The groom is ity engineer. The groom is the son of board relations for the Nashville Ballet. school teacher. The groom is the son of
the son of Arthur and Marcia Gray. He Hugo and Maria Macuil and works as The groom is the son of William and Amy and Scott Zell and works as a net-
works as a certified public accountant. a process engineer. The couple will re- Barbara Krispin and works as a free- work engineer. The couple will reside
The couple will reside in Nashville. side in Dallas, Texas. lance stage manager. The couple will in Clarksville.
reside in Nashville.
Lanier-Statler Varley-Bock Murphy-Klabunde Morgan-Montesi
Elizabeth Hope Lanier and Thomas Bridget Varley and George Bock IV Bevin Gwyn Murphy and Nathan Mark Julia Morgan and Murray Montesi were
Joseph Statler will be married on Nov. were married on June 23, 2018, at the Klabunde were married on Dec. 29, married on Sept. 28, 2019, at Christ the
24, 2019, at Joshua Tree National Park Cathedral of the Incarnation in Nash- 2018, at the Church of the Assumption King Church in Nashville. The bride is
in Southern California. The bride is the ville. The bride is the daughter of Pam in Nashville. The bride is the daughter the daughter of Janet Morgan Mann.
daughter of Tom and Jan Lanier and Kohl and Bill Varley. She works as a of Joe and Carol Murphy. She works She works as a nurse practitioner. The
works as a production coordinator for clinical leadership recruiter at Sound as a Collegiate Development Specialist groom is the son of Dr. Scott and Trudi
content development. The groom is Physicians. The groom is the son of for Delta Gamma Sorority. The groom Montesi. He works as an accountant.
the son of Tom Statler and Chris Fagin George and Jamy Bock. He works as is the son of Mark and Dana Klabunde. The couple resides in Nashville.
Statler and is a master’s of fine arts can- the director of operations and business He is a dentist. The couple resides in
didate in directing. After the wedding, development at Bock Construction. The Columbus, Ohio.
the couple will reside in Los Angeles. couple resides in Nashville.
DeMers-Savko Anthony-Guidry Tibbetts-McCulley Jackson-Lydon
Sandra Lee DeMers and Brian Paul Bethann Anthony and Justin Guidry Catherine Michelle Tibbetts and Daniel Erica Jackson and Craig Lydon were
Savko were married on June 22, 2019, were married on July 27, 2019, at the Alexander Vinson McCulley were mar- married on April 6, 2019, in Nashville.
at St. Rose of Lima Church in Mur- Cathedral of the Incarnation in Nash- ried on Sept. 20, 2019, at St. Lambert The bride is the daughter of John and
freesboro. The bride is the daughter of ville. The bride is the daughter of Bev- Church in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. The Lisa Jackson. She works as a nurse-IT.
John and Barbara Schaffer. She works erly and David Anthony. She works as bride is the daughter of Christopher and The groom is the son of Patrick and
in insurance operations. The groom is a social media manager. The groom is Jennifer Tibbetts. She works as a nurse Jeannetta Lydon. He works as a project
the son of Robert and Eleanor Savko. the son of Janice and Paul Guidry. He practitioner. The groom is the son of the manager. The couple resides in Leba-
He works in insurance operations. The works as a certified public accountant. Rev. Mr. Daniel McCulley and Dr. Janice non, Tennessee.
couple resides in Murfreesboro. The couple resides in Nashville. Vinson. He works as a chemist. The cou-
ple resides in Sioux Falls, South Dakota.
October 4, 2019 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement 5
McInturff-Hoffman Aldin-Mosrie Barber 25th anniversary Bates 25th anniversary
Audry McInturff and Ryan Hoffman Erica Diann Aldin and Mark Jeffery Kevin and Michelle Barber celebrated Sam and Shannon Bates will celebrate
were married on Aug. 10, 2019, at the Mosrie were married on July 20, 2019, their 25th wedding anniversary on July their 25th wedding anniversary on Oct.
Church of the Assumption and Belle at the Church of the Assumption in 16, 2019. The couple were married in 8, 2019. They were married in Hebron,
Meade Plantation in Nashville. The Nashville. The bride is the daughter of Plano, Texas. The Barbers have four Indiana. They have two children, Sam-
bride is the daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Gabriel and Mary Ann Aldin. She works children: Madeline Louise, Audrey uel and Patrick. He works as a manager
Timothy Shawn McInturff. She works as a formulation scientist at Mars Pet- Claire, Kate Amalia and Mary Isabelle and she is a registered nurse.
as an engineer. The groom is the son of care. The groom is the son of Zook and Grace. He works for Barber Cabinet
Mr. and Mrs. Joey Brown. He works as a Caroline Mosrie. He works as a profes- Co., and she is the Dean of Advance-
lawyer. The couple resides in Nashville. sional photographer. The couple resides ment and Admissions for Pope John
in Spring Hill, Tennessee. Paul II High School in Hendersonville.
Bruce 25th anniversary Goggins 25th anniversary Labadie 25th anniversary Tiamson 25th anniversary
Pete and Kristine Bruce celebrated the Bernie and Dotti Goggins celebrated the Robert and Karyn Labadie celebrated Lito and Carmela Tiamson celebrated
25th anniversary of their wedding on April 25th anniversary of their wedding on Aug. the 25th anniversary of their wedding the 25th anniversary of their wedding on
9, 2019. They were married in Columbia, 22, 2019. They were married in Bowling on Aug. 6, 2019. They were married Sept. 9, 2019. They were married in Leba-
Missouri. The couple has five children, Green, Kentucky. The couple has four at Sacred Heart Church in Pittsburgh, non, Tennessee. The couple has two chil-
Savannah, Adam, Mitchell, Elliott and children, Bernie III, Scotty Lynn, Corey Pennsylvania. The couple has four dren, Gabriel and Isabella. Both Mr. and
Eiley. Mr. Bruce works as a vice president and Kylie, and nine grandchildren. Mr. children, Matthew, Jameson, Aidan and Mrs. Tiamson are registered nurses. The
of sales, and Mrs. Bruce is a homemaker. Goggins is retired, and Mrs. Goggins is Zachary. Dr. Labadie is an otolaryn- couple resides in Old Hickory, Tennessee.
The couple resides in Brentwood. an ophthalmic technician. The couple re- gologist, and Mrs. Labadie is a home-
sides in Goodlettsville, Tennessee. maker. The couple resides in Nashville.
Suchanick 25th anniversary Markut 30th anniversary Leonor 48th anniversary Rodgers 50th anniversary
David and Rose Marie Suchanick will cel- Bill and Lisa Markut celebrated the Victor and Anamaria Leonor celebrated Evelyn and Bill Rodgers will celebrate
ebrate the 25th anniversary of their wed- 30th anniversary of their wedding on the 48th anniversary of their wedding the 50th anniversary of their wedding on
ding on Oct. 15, 2019. They were married Aug. 26, 2019. They were married at St. on March 23, 2019. They were married Dec. 20, 2019. They were married at Holy
at St. James Catholic Church in Tupelo, Joseph Church in Marseilles, Illinois. in Quezon City, Philippines. They have Rosary Church in Donelson. The couple
Mississippi. The couple has one daugh- The couple has two children, Beau and three children and five grandchildren. Mr. has five children, Kimberly Sigmund, Bill
ter, Katie Suchanick. Mr. Suchanick is Jake. Their occupations are software Leonor is a physical therapist and Mrs. Rodgers Jr., Matt Rodgers, Ann Marie
the territory manager for Armstrong engineer and hobby farmer. The couple Leonor is a registered nurse. The couple Strickmaker and John Rodgers, and 13
Medical Supply, and Mrs. Suchanick is a resides in Spring Hill, Tennessee. resides in Old Hickory, Tennessee. grandchildren. The couple work as a con-
registered dental hygienist for Dr. Justin tractor and Realtor. They reside in Kings-
Poff. The couple resides in Nashville. ton Springs, Tennessee.
Continued on page 8
6 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement October 4, 2019
Book shows couples how to let marriage age like fine wine
Kristina Shaw sharing, and a tip about how to practice 2012 at the World Meeting of Families These books also have accompanying
what was discussed in the chapter. in Milan, Italy. The couple attended the programs that can be used in parishes.
J
ohn and Teri Bosio met at a Kansas The jars correspond with the sacra- celebration on the way to visit John’s The programs contain videos with ac-
church in 1971 where he was working ments. The first centers around wel- brother and sister who also live there. companying handouts, all produced by
as the director of religious education come and acceptance for baptism; the At the event, Pope-emeritus Bene- the Bosios. They plan to do the same
and she was working second is faithfulness for dict XVI was asked by with “Six Jars of Love.”
as the parish secre- confirmation; the third is a young couple from Another book, “Joined by Grace: A
tary. Almost 47 years generosity and sacrifice for Madagascar his advice Catholic Prayer Book for Engaged and
of marriage later, with the Eucharist; the fourth is about getting married. Newly Married Couples” was published
two daughters and a forgiveness for reconcilia- The pope responded by Ave Maria Press in 2017. An accom-
grandson, they are an tion; the fifth is compassion that feelings surround- panying marriage preparation program
author team with their and empathy for the anoint- ing falling in love, do was also developed for it and it was the
latest published book. ing of the sick; and the final not last forever. He couple’s first book written together.
“Six Jars of Love: jar is service to God and one compared the feelings John said that he develops the main
Loving Attitudes to John Bosio another, with the backdrop of to the first wine at the concepts, while Teri helps fill in the
Help Married Couples Holy Orders and matrimony. Cana wedding, but content with appropriate stories and is a
Reconnect” was pub- “We want to show that said that the second, good judge of what appeals to readers.
lished in July 2019 and Christ’s love for the Church, more mature wine “My contribution to John’s writing is
revolves thematically expressed in the seven sacra- that comes in mar- about style,” she said. “I read the drafts
around the Biblical ments, is the model for spousal riage is “more won- of his articles as if I were the average
wedding feast at Cana. love in marriage,” John said. derful” than the first. person in the pew.”
When the wine runs The Bosios have called the The analogy stuck John is a certified marriage and fam-
out at the feast, Mary volume “a book that all newlyweds with John and he expressed it through ily counselor and had a private practice
tells the servants should have.” articles written for the Tennessee Regis- for 10 years in Kansas City. In 1978 he
there to do whatever “One of the purposes of the book ter; The Leaven, a newspaper published and Teri began working as Family Life
her Son tells them Terri Bosio is to remind couples of the reality of by the Archdiocese of Kansas City in Coordinators for the Family Life Office
to. Jesus commands married life: we all run out of wine Kansas; and the Diocese of Charleston in the Archdiocese of Kansas City. Teri
them to fill six jars with water then to from time to time and hopefully we publication, the Catholic Miscellany; also served as the Director of Adult
draw some of the water and take it to the are friends of Mary and Jesus who will and at couples’ retreats. It came to frui- Formation. She is now the Director of
chief steward. They do and the water had help us, like the couple at Cana,” John tion after contact with the publishing Youth Formation at St. Stephen Catholic
turned into wine. said. “This is especially important for company, Twenty-Third Publications. Community in Old Hickory, and John
The book goes through each jar and newlyweds to know. They expect life to John has partnered with the pub- serves as president of Nashville Catho-
offers practical advice and stories re- be wonderful, and it will be, but it is in- lisher to produce other books includ- lic Radio. The two also lead couples’
lated to enriching a marriage. At the end evitable that shortly after the wedding ing “Happy Together: The Catholic retreats across the country.
of each chapter there is a prayer, a set they will drift apart emotionally and Blueprint for a Happy Marriage” and To learn more about and purchase
of questions for personal and/or couple will need to regroup to reconnect.” “Blessed is Marriage: A Guide to the their materials, visit happy-together.
reflection, a set of questions for group The inspiration for the novel came in Beatitudes for Catholic Couples.” net.
We focus on the
details, so you can
focus on creating
beautiful memories
October 4, 2019 Tennessee Register Weddings & Marriages Supplement 7
Reading list for engaged couples should include ‘Amoris Laetitia’
Carol Zimmermann CNS by a society of consumption and empty
appearances. What is important is
W
ASHINGTON “Amoris Laeti- the love you share, strengthened and
tia,” Pope Francis’ 2016 apos- sanctified by grace,” he said, sounding
tolic exhortation on marriage almost like the father of the bride.
and family life, is not only something Pope Francis also pointed out in “Amo-
that can benefit parish programs but it ris Laetitia” that there are many reasons
also offers very basic and practical ad- young people don’t get married -- finan-
vice for engaged couples. cial reasons, fears or the sense that mar-
“Learning to love someone does not riage would limit their independence.
happen automatically, nor can it be To counter these views, he said
taught in a workshop just prior to the young people need help discovering
celebration of marriage,” the pope the dignity and beauty of marriage.
wrote in his reflections on the October “They should be helped to perceive
2015 Synod on the Family. the attraction of a complete union that el-
He also said the main objective of evates and perfects the social dimension
parish marriage preparation should be of existence, gives sexuality its deepest
to help engaged couples “help each to meaning, and benefits children by of-
learn how to love this very real person fering them the best context for their
with whom he or she plans to share his growth and development,” he wrote.
or her whole life.” He also said those involved in mar-
He suggested that couples learn this riage preparation should try not to
first from their parents and then from overwhelm couples with too much
parish programs. He also said they information and instead focus on help- CNS photo/Paul Haring
should make use of the sacrament of ing them accept Church teaching and “Amoris Laetitia,” Pope Francis’ 2016 apostolic exhortation on marriage
reconciliation to find mercy and “heal- obtain resources on practical advice and family life, is not only something that can benefit parish programs but it
ing strength” and also should reflect and programs. also offers very basic and practical advice for engaged couples.
on the Bible passages selected for their The pope recommended that mar-
wedding liturgy and the meaning of riage preparation programs help cou- couples should discuss what they expect initial years of their marriage.
their exchanged rings. ples recognize eventual problems and and want from their marriage and what “Young love needs to keep dancing to-
On a practical level, he cautioned risks they could face. kind of life they hope to build together. wards the future with immense hope,”
against the “exhausted and harried” “In this way,” he said, couples can Marriage is not the “end of the road,” he wrote.
feeling many couples experience on come to realize the wisdom of break- he said, but “a life-long calling based on Because that hope, he added, is the
their wedding day and suggested they ing off a relationship whose failure and a firm and realistic decision to face all leaven that “in those first years of en-
could avoid this through more modest painful aftermath can be foreseen.” trials and difficult moments together.” gagement and marriage, makes it pos-
or simple ceremonies. The pope also pointed out that “many The pope also encouraged couples sible to look beyond arguments, con-
“Have the courage to be different. couples marry without really knowing to continue to get support from their flicts and problems and to see things in
Don’t let yourselves get swallowed up one another.” To counter that, he said, parish after the wedding day and in the a broader perspective.”
Couples should make dinners special, cooking priest says
Carol Zimmermann CNS hug” because of his family’s hospitality,
which is so typical of the Filipino cul-
W
hen Father Leo Patalinghug ture. He said he helped or watched his
was leading parish marriage mother cook and they never ate dinner
preparation programs, he until his father, a doctor, came home
noticed couples put a lot into wedding from work, usually around 7:30 p.m.
planning but didn’t necessarily think His extended family still gets to-
about celebrating small milestones gether for big meals and his mom still
after they were married, such as their does a lot of the cooking, because she’s
month anniversaries. such a good cook, said Father Pataling-
But as he sees it, newlyweds should hug while coincidentally getting ready
not wait a year to celebrate their wed- for a family gathering at his home.
ding anniversary but instead they In his book, the priest says: “It doesn’t
should do something special once a take an extensive study to show me that
month to celebrate their marriage. couples that take time to share a meal
He isn’t suggesting four-course meals together have stronger relationships.”
necessarily but simply preparing and He also said this information
sharing good food and conversation. To shouldn’t surprise anyone, because if
that end, he wrote the cookbook “Spic- couples think back to when they first
ing Up Married Life.” started dating they’ll remember
Father Patalinghug’s apostolate is that they likely met for coffee,
“Grace Before Meals” -- encouraging went on picnics or romantic din-
families to eat dinners together and ners. “Why stop that momentum
share their faith at the table. His “Spic- after marriage?” he asked.
CNS photo/Chaz Muth Dinner dates work for married
ing Up” cookbook offers prayer and
conversation topics for couples along Celebrity chef Father Leo Patalinghug displays couples, he points out in another
with pastoral advice about raising chil- a Lenten seafood pasta meal he prepared in his chapter, but he also knows that many
dren, forgiving each other, caring for Baltimore kitchen. His “Spicing Up Married Life” couples give the excuse that they are
extended family members and aging, in cookbook offers prayer and conversation topics for too busy for this.
between dinner and dessert recipes. couples along with pastoral advice about raising Again, he advises thinking back to
In the introduction, he notes that it children, forgiving each other, caring for extended the dating stage of a relationship, when
“may seem strange for an unmarried family members and aging, in between dinner couples may have been just as busy as
priest to write a book about marriage and dessert recipes. they are now but they still made time to
(much less a cookbook about mar- be together.
riage),” but he also points out that he is, tion programs across the United States. municating via social media about the “Admit it, nothing was more impor-
to use a cooking phrase, simply trying He told Catholic News Service that need for families to celebrate everyday tant than keeping that relationship
to stir the pot and encourage couples to when he was growing up, his family life meals together. He also has written alive and well. So why should anything
actively work on their relationships. helped inspire the apostolate he now three books and is currently working change now?”
He dedicated the cookbook, pub- dedicates his life to. It involves travels on two more. And to that end, he would simply
lished in 2012, to his parents on their across the country giving parish work- The Filipino-American priest is the advise picking a recipe from his book,
50th anniversary. Today the book is shops and speaking at conferences, youngest of four children and he jok- cooking it together, and sitting down to
used in a number of marriage prepara- appearing on radio programs and com- ingly says he grew up in “Hotel Pataling- eat it at the kitchen table. Bon appetit! 
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